The question may sound stupid, but not if ur biracial & was raised primarily in a multiracial neighborhood. My dad's Chinese mom's Indian, but it seems as though he's really keen for us to speak & fully utilize Chinese & Chiense customs, which can be very stressful. It seems like he's forgetting his wife is Indian. I know he means well, but how do I gently remind him that 'dad, I'm also half Indian, u know!' He sometimes can boast about how great & marvellous the Chinese is which really upsets me. He loves & accepts Indian culture (esp. his favorite Indian cuisine) but he wants us to be a 'well-rounded' Chiense first.
I think its stupid. I know he means well but i'm just so sick of him thinking about himself, his race, his culture & all that. Thank God he's not a Buddhist (Christian, like my mom), or my life will be like hell. How do i say, "dad, i really wanna learn more about India & Indian culture"? My mom doesnt seem to be bothered a bit, coz she's not as obsessed as him
2006-08-17 03:33:05 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I mean, i dont even look like Chinese, more like a Hispanic. Is "dad, I'm half Indian too!" too harsh?
2006-08-17 03:33:39 · update #1
I'm 21. Btw he's also slightly racist, against the Japanese, what "they did to the Chinese" or whatever. My bf's Korean, & i plan to move to Japan b4 25. How do i tell him? I have my whole career mapped out there
2006-08-17 03:53:01 · update #2
Oh Katy,TX i dont think he minds. He loves Indian culture, loves my mom & the food. Its just thta, being raised in a predominanty Chinese neighborhood doesnt help much
2006-08-17 03:55:39 · update #3
How old are you? I gather a teenager.. All your thoughts are normal, you are trying to identify yourself and stand apart from others... My kids are biracial, I have teach them my culture, my husband is more lay back, or probably he doesn't care much.. Ultimately is your decision what you identify yourself with. Don't turn your back of what you have learned to spite your dad.. If is important to you, it sounds you are a lot like him, think it may be important for him.. Let him have his time as soon as you move out do what you please..
If you still want to let him know you want to identify with the Indian culture, pretend filling a job application, or college application in front of him and out loud say Race; Indian.. That may catch him of guard and he will notice... Be nice.. One day he won't be there for you and you may regret your words..
2006-08-17 03:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your Mom. You should probably talk it over with both parents. Sit down and have a pleasant conversation. Ask about the relationships between the cultures.
I'm sure you already know, but please bear through my example. Ask your Dad to tell you about customs from China, for example. Then, ask your Mom to tell you about the similarities and differences of customs between China and India.
It might just work as a subtle way to get your father to understand that you are curious and interested about the Indian culture without making him feel like you're not interested in Chinese culture.
2006-08-17 10:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by steele_feher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Dad, I'd like to learn about Mom's culture too."
2006-08-17 10:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man, i thought i had problems...
Just be honest... i reckon...
but yeah... i'm not "bi-racial" but, my great great grandfather was a black african...but that was like 10 generations ago...
so what i reckon is, only take advice from ppl in the same situation.
2006-08-17 10:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by princessjadii 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋