my ex boyfriend doesn't sleep. hasn't for 10 years. he will stay up all night watching tv/on pc. he doesn't know why he does it. he then sleeps all sat and sun. sometimes he will get a few hours but rarely more than 2. he smokes 40 a day and doesn't eat properly. never exercises. we broke up because he couldn't deal with any sort of stress/conflict. i mean, seriously. he would switch his phone off and retreat if he ever thought i was angry wiv him. his memory was awful - time keeping etc. he ended it in teh end. but says he still loves me. i know this sounds almost pitiful but he is a lovely genuine bloke and i miss him. i am actualyl a very good judge of character and i think the sleep thing is messing him up. does anyone relate to this in any way. anyone know what it might be? (apart from blatant stuborness/stupidity on his part!) or what not sleeping would be doing to him. he is 30 so not a kid!
2006-08-17 03:27:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
hi - don't mean to be narky but if you don't have anything helpful to say n all that! ...
2006-08-17 03:35:32 · update #1
thanks in answer to question - no he is not using cocaine or amphetimines. he had bad panic attacks years ago and would never touch them..
i think it sounds like depression. are you capable of helping yourself if you have depression?
2006-08-17 03:42:41 · update #2
thanks. i don't know his family that well but i am thinking of writing to his mum...?
his mates are rubbish in this area. i think they find it comical that he gets confused etc - and i feel worried that if i don't do something he will get worse..?
but i don't want to embarrass him by speaking to his mum behind his back. ???? agh!
2006-08-17 04:00:44 · update #3
He sounds like he is suffering from some major depression.
Yes, no sleep can become an issue with regard to his mental health.
Personally it sounds like he did you a favor because eventually his mental issues will start to drag you down too.
I recommend talking to his family and seeing about getting him into counseling and onto some medications.
2006-08-17 03:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by delilahlookingforsampson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get bad with sleeping but there's no routine. At one point i sort of come to the conclusion i don't like waking up. So by not going to sleep i don't have to wake up. Usually i manage a few hours a night though. But i'm 41 now so i suppose it's catching up with me. I've has a pretty traumatic life
It's not the sleep messing him up. It's himself messing him up. I smoke but 40 a day is taking the mickey. My mother smokes 60 a day and she is an emotional vacuum. She puts all her emotional energy into her habit.
I think it's self-induced ignorance and laziness to self cultivate in his case i'm afraid. I could be wrong. I hope i am.
2006-08-17 03:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Part Time Cynic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should seek professional help.
Human body is like one big battery. We need sleep to recharge our bodies and mind.
To answer your question, yes, everything that you have described is most likely related to his lack of sleep. It has been proven that if a human goes without sleep (not one bit) for a period of one week to 10 days, that it can drive you to insanity.
You will start to hallucinate, hear voices.
Lack of sleep can also bring on health problems, like high blood pressure (or low), depression, digestion issues, and so on.
People who lack sleep, lack energy to do their every day tasks, and just like your ex, they can not handle any additional stress or events as it will require the use of their mind, which due to the lack of sleep is not present.
What happens in thise situations, they can develop panic attack, anxiety, which will lead to their heart pumping more blood and I don't need to tell you that the conequences can be devastating.
He should get tested on why he can not sleep, but first, he should have a doctor prescribe him some mild sleeping pills.
A lot of people are opposed to sleeping pills, however, in his case, it might just save his life. I have a prescription my self, and, not I am not addicted, I take it only every 3 to 4 months, if I really can not sleep and I need to get up early in the morning....
Try talking to him and make sure that he knows your are dead serious about his condition.
2006-08-17 03:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Insomnia, compulsiveness (from the fact he smokes so much), malnutrition, and depression just to name a few. He needs to get professional help to stop destroying himself. He is surviving this because hes young, but the body wont resist much longer under this conditions. This situation will accelerate the process of aging and sooner than you think other problems will start showing, remember that sleep time is never recovered. If you really care about him, please seek professional help.
About your love life, I am sorry to break it down to you like this but this person needs to take care of himself first. After the psychiatrist asseses him properly and you see his improvement then you can proceed with a relationship. In the meantime, help him, he needs a friend. This is of course if he wants to be helped, if not, you will have to think of more subtles ways to help him.
2006-08-17 03:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Apollo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is suffering from social anxiety depression....I can relate to a lot of this. There are times when I just want to be alone with my thoughts....I never know when this feeling is going to hit me. For no reason at all, I retreat into myself and shut others out...Other times, I don't care if I get out of bed in the morning or get dressed...I either ignore others, or yell at them for no reason..Unlike him though, I like to sleep and take pills for that too...If he seems sad alot of the time, try to get him some help from a doctor...Don't give up on him....He really needs you.....
2006-08-17 03:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is running on nervous tension & nicotine. Is he using any drugs like amphetamines or cocaine? That would explain the no eating and no sleeping... But it does also sound like he could have a mental health problem...
2006-08-17 03:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should look into going to a sleep clinic. (I went to one last night for sleep apnea.) They might be able to diagnose his problem and provide assistance in how to deal with it.
TIP: Do not look into it for him; it is his problem, make him set the appointment and get their himself. Like you said, "He is 30 so not a kid."
2006-08-17 03:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is suffering from depression or maybe mania, he needs to see a doctor
2006-08-17 03:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably watching Porn
2006-08-17 03:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by 'Rickaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLLY CRAP.....GET SOME HELP
2006-08-17 03:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by mj23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋