My boyfriend has male friends that are really getting on my nerves. We don't live together and everytime I turn around they are hanging over his house. He complains about it but he still lets them come over. It seems like he is attached to their company. They are in their 20's and 30's and they act like children. They drink alot, play poker all the time and just act like idiots. We never go out anymore and when I mention to him how I feel he gets upset and says I am trying to run his life! He's says I act immature and I am nieve! I know I am not either. I dont know why he is acting like this. It makes me wonder what am I being nieve about? His one friend is around him 24 7 and everytime you turn around he is calling. My boyfriend invited me over and he asked me if his friend could come over and watch a movie with us. I couldn't believe it I hadn't seen him in over 2 weeks and he wanted this clown to join us!! He is making me feel insecure! What does his friends have that I dont?
2006-08-17 03:25:46 · 11 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The problem isn't with you girl. Don't feel insecure. Your boyfriend has yet to realize his responsibilities in a relationship. You have to confront him about it. But rather than telling him what you want him to do, tell him what sort of behavior you expect from the guy you are with. Don't be angry about it, just be serious and calm. You want time alone with him. Tell him that you have no desire to be with someone who is unable to dedicate time to you (if that is the way you feel). Tell him that you will not accept being treated as just a 'pal' because you are not. If he still doesn't change or make any effort, then you should bail on him. He's never going to treat you any better than that.
Hope it goes well and he gets the picture!
2006-08-17 03:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie i promise its not u , I was in the same situation . Its him dump his *** and find someone else because hes the one immature and not ready to grow up. let him go he may act like he doesnt care or even try to get back with u but these kind of guys never change believe me.u need to find u someone who will treat u with respect and show u attention and yes he might want to hang out with his guy freinds well take that time to hang out with ur girls. just keep space but know that the love is there. find you someone who will love u as much as u love them.
2006-08-17 03:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just really like to hang out with friends. I think you should sit him down talk to him. That you're fine that his friends hang out with him a lot. But you want some time alone. Just the two of you. If he doesn't change then I guess he cares more about hanging out with his friends than hanging out with you. And you should find someone who does care more about you.
2006-08-17 03:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by QQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though he is with you and most likely loves you he is with his friends for companionship and like you said you hadn't seen him in 2 weeks he had to turn to his friends just to be around someone for fun. There are alot of guys that are like even though they are in a loving relationship the still want to be with their friends and not meaning too end up hurting their girlfriends.
2006-08-17 03:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is who your boyfriend is. He is social with his group and they are his main priority and support system. If you want to be number one you are barking up the wrong tree with this one. Simply put if you cannot accept his behavior find another guy who suits you more, because obviously this one does not. You cannot change him. You will only make you and he miserable. Cut your losses and start fresh and let him live the life he enjoys.
2006-08-17 03:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by Carol P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would find someone I could hang around, that didn't include him or his friends. Maybe it's a male bonding moment. He sounds like he is having trouble with a serious commitment. He needs to grow up. Find someone new.
2006-08-17 03:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend acts like he is no longer interested in having a relationship with you. I would back off completely and wait till he crawls back-let him crawl and don't make it easy on him. In the meanwhile there are other fish in the sea-look around for someone who can appreciate you. He sounds like a dud.
2006-08-17 03:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to tell the truth i have had this to me so many times i felt my boyfriend spent to much with his friends to and im goin to tell u what my mama told me if u dont stand up for somethin in that relationship then your gona fall for anything that he puts out u dont need a man who dont want to spend any time with u i never got see my boyfriend most time until weekends and so often because we to 2 diffrent schools but everytime he came he brung his stupid cousins and never really acknowledge my presents. so i say u give a reality check and break up wit him. u never miss your water till ur well runs dry.
2006-08-17 04:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make other plans and see what happens. Obviously talking to him about it hasnt done any good. It sounds almost as if he doesnt want to be alone with you for some reason. Give him "space" and see how it goes.
2006-08-17 03:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men well do what ever they can get away with .if he has his own place you have no say.if you want to have him spen time with you only then you need to start doing things only you to can do.sounds like he is not grounded and is finding his place in his friends and your world .stop naging and start loving .
2006-08-17 03:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋