I have 2 daughters,26 and 5. The 5 year old gets jealous when I spend time with the 26 year old. Why is that?

Answer 1

Well, because I'm a teenager, maybe I can understand.
kids always want to be number one, you can't blame them on that one. Especially when she is 5, she can be emotional, or sensitive at a time. One suggestion from me is that you should spend time together, even though it's private or secret, she's just 5 she doesn't understand a thing.
One more thing, kids that age always think "why am I a kid, mom never pays attention to me..." or sumthin like that.
I know because I remember I felt so when I was a kid... ^ ^

Answer 2

Because she's 5, and her parents are the most important thing in the world to her. She's not mature enough to understand tht you can love her and her sister at the same time.
Do you spend time with both daughters together? Or do you spend time with the 26 year old by herself? Maybe try to include the 5 year old sometimes.

Answer 3

Becaue you have not shown her that loving Her is as important as the love you give to the 26 year old. The 5 year old lacks the understanding of how love can be shared. To her it is simply the amount of time you get to spend with her.

Answer 4

The 5 year old is still in the "ME" stage. It is in her nature to be selfish. She thinks the world of you. Of course she will be jealous if she thinks you are having a better time with your other daughter. You need to set aside time for the 5 year old everyday. Real time! Make sure you play games with her, play make-believe, colour with her, do what interests her most.

Answer 5

These 2 daughters apparently don't have the same mother,the age difference tells that.Its natural for the younger to be jealous of dad,try to include her in the things you and the older do.Do some things that the younger likes together,you can work it out if you take the time.

Answer 6

You need to teach her not to be. Kids get jealous very easy if they arent the center of attention. Since there is such a big age diff, You probably spend most of your time with the 5 yr old, so she is NORMALLY the center of your attention. You need to tell her When she is being jealous to GROW UP, and litterally tell her that she is not the center of the universe and noone is paying attention to her. When she acts out while you are spending time with the older daughter flat out tell her, We are not going to pay attention to you. This worked for me. My youngest sister to me is 10 yrs older than me, and if my mom would try and spend time with her Id always act up, shed tell me this, and Id back off. Kids will get the clue. She needs to be tought this now, or else she will be the most spoiled bratty kid you ever saw if you dont. Good luck. AND REMEMBER... kids have over 90% of their behaviorisms by age 6. So get her in check now.

Answer 7

first off they're very far apart in age, she's a five year old. Had you had them close 3-4 years apart it would be the 26 year old jealous of the baby.

Answer 8

it is because that little kids want alot of attention and cause you are spending time with your 26 year old she fills left out i recomend you have a mother and 2 daughter movie night or go shopping

Answer 9

yes, because she is a 5 yr old. The development of a 5 yr old sees people that met their demands giving attention to others and they want or demand the same attention.

Giving children separate individual time is very important.

Answer 10

Cause she's your baby, try spending time with both girls at the same time. Once she gets a little older, she'll mature and things will get better. Talk to her though, and explain that your time has to be divided evenly between the two, she knows how she feels when she doens't get to spend time with you, and explain that her sister feels the same way, so to be fair you can't spend 24-7 with her.