broken up, we still text each other throughout the day and we even talked on the phone about things last night. I still love him with my whole heart and he loves me too. Its just hard for us to be together because we argue too much and both of us have changed alot since the beginning of our relationship. He says "maybe we will be together later on in life. maybe we just got together too early." Im just so confused and sad. I dont have a clue what to do. I love him and only him and want to marry him someday! WE just have alot of trust issues and things like that. Should I try to move on or keep talking to him and try to work it out one way or the other?
Note: We have broken up about 4 times in 2 years. This is the longest we have been apart though.
2006-08-17 03:12:57 · 21 answers · asked by pinkie443 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stay in there tiger.maybe you two just dont know what you want outa life and your both trying to figure it out.give it time and dont try and rush it baby girl...good luck
2006-08-17 03:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by antho c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one. I was involved on and off with someone for over ten years. We loved each other but just couldn't get along together.
You can love someone and it still won't work. And it's not like a friendship with a relative, neighbor or a casual friend - it tends to be "all or nothing." You can't just enjoy the parts of the person and see them occasionally. How ironic, and sad, that the people we have been closest to are the ones we have the least contact with later.
But that's because usually people find someone even better for them.
Sounds like you both love each other, but again it's not enough.
Sadly, after all these words I have no answer. Maybe a break will give you the best chance. They say absence is to love like wind is to a flame - it extinguishes a small one, and fans a larger one.
Don't push it now. Just enjoy the other parts of your life, and both see what it's like with friends, other people, on your own. Either both of you will want to get together later, or not. Give the relationship a break.
It's risky. If you are young it may well be that you two are done.
But if all you do is argue, staying together will only make it worse.
I wish you the best of luck. I've been there.
2006-08-17 03:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok my brother was in a situation like that the breaking up hooking back up its like an on an off situation and to me they both changed for the worst they were together for four years my brother got controlling cause he was jealous of her even talking to other guys so i know u love the guy but if ur relationship is anything like this get out now you'll be so much happier OH... the girl my bro was with left him found another guy and has been together happy no fighting for 2yrs and are about to get married. Good luck!!
2006-08-17 03:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know? I'm going through the same situation as you are, and your right! its hurts like a bee-yatch. I hate it because i remember all the good times we shared. Why not the horrible times we had? You have to ask yourself one thing. Do you really think that things are going to change? Will you be happy in the long run if you stick around? You and I just got used to being with that special person in our lives. We have to get used to not being with them. After 4 arguments you must wonder why this is repetative. After a while things will start looking clear for us, in the meantime do things that you enjoy doing by yourself or with a friend(s). It all takes time, and I know you've probably heard this, but just take it one day at a time. Things will get better. You'll see.
2006-08-17 03:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by alter_ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think you should try to move on...It's sO hard when it's like that, but that would probably be the best thing to do. Things will never be the same between you two...Maybe just gradually don't talk to him as much and definately (even if it's hard) try to start talking to other guys, even just as friends, something to get your mind off of him for a second here or there.
Good Luck with whatever you choose!
2006-08-17 03:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by the best 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd keep moving on. Circumstances in life change and maybe they will change for you 2 but you cannot stop living because of your breakup. Arguing is no way to enjoy a relationship and when taken to extremes can lead to emotional or even physical abuse. You guys have made the right choice and its time to move on.
2006-08-17 03:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the one real test of a relationship.
My girlfriend and I go through this about every 4 months.
I ask myself, "Do the good times outweigh the tough times?"
A true love can and will outlast the test of time.
If both of you can get past this and stay together then nothing will be able to come between you.
2006-08-17 03:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by The Eight Ball 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the exact same thing right now. He just recently told me he missed me but thats about it. I've just realized that all things will fall into place as it should. Just dont Let some other B get him cause then he might just move on for good and you have invested too much time and energy for that.
2006-08-17 03:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by michelle m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that since you and him have broken up, you do not need to be texting him all the time. This makes it seem like the relationship isn't over. If it is indeed over, you need to tell him not to text you anymore because you need time to sort through everything in your life. He will understand since, I assume, he is the one who broke it off.
Take some "you" time and pamper yourself, take care of yourself and not worry about a boyfriend for a while.
2006-08-17 03:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You boyfriend is your boyfriend cause he thinks he can still get into your pants. A guy no matter what can never be a girls friend, just a sex partner and if you are willing to be a slut for the rest of your life with the same dude with whom you broke up then go ahead ruin your life.
2006-08-17 03:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by shrimpPasta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you have trust issues give it some time because if you dont have trust you dont have a good relationship and even though yall been together for a while doesnt mean that you should stay with him because it might not work later on
2006-08-17 05:11:44 · answer #11 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋