My boyfriend and I have been dating since Oct. 8 of last year. We have spent almost every waking moment together except when I am at work. I enjoy being with him. He has told me over and over that he loves me, that there is noone else and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. My concerns are these: He has had friends that he calls in the evenings. They have casual conversations about how their days are going and he asks them to come and visit. He is a very friendly. No problem. However, sometimes these friends will come over. However, lately I have been noticing certain things around the house that concerns me. I want to know if I should be concerned or if I am just very untrusting. He has a huge jar of vasiline that is almost empty. We have never used this. He has many men's phone numbers on little papers in a drawer. I asked him if he is gay. He said absolutely not, and I have not been with anyone since we met.
2006-08-17 03:10:28 · 23 answers · asked by gofigure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ask him about all that stuff, and you can tell by his body language if he is lying to you or not.
2006-08-17 03:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by CATIE M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 00:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't have to be. Vaseline is not just for sex. actually that is not even its purpose. Also, maybe those numebers are numbers of his friends. If you feel uncomfortable, end it, but if you feel good then let it stay the way it is.
Also, the way you can test this instinct is by taking a trip together. Take a trip somewhere for a few days and see how he acts when you're there.
2006-08-17 03:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Borna F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...whoah! OK lets not jump to conclusions...and panic. Maybe he uses the vaseline to grease up his body everyday...it is a good mosturizer....but on the other hand...you do make a good point. Do you have any gay friends that could possibly help you out in finding out if he is gay? Or you could play detective and snoop around. Put a web cam in his room and yes that is totally invading his privacy but you need to know right. I wish I could help out more. Good Luck. Hopefully he isn't gay and lying to you about it but if you two are sexually active you need to get checked honey, you know STD's. Encourage him to get checked out too. Too many people die from this shi* and I'd hate for that to happen.
2006-08-17 03:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself a problem gal. Get the hell out before you find out what the devastating truth is. You need a real man not a weirdo who uses vaseline for unexplained needs. Get out when the time to do so is still good. And does he use condoms with you? Beware of the bug. Weirdos also catch it from each other.
2006-08-17 03:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be using the Vaseline to jerk off. I dont think you should jump to conclusions over that. The little pieces of paper are kind of weird because you usually see that when people are hooking up in bars/clubs but again I dont think you can jump to conclusions. Your with him all the time so when is he getting these #'s ?
2006-08-17 03:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description he may be bi but if I were you I would not jump to conclusions considering such things are a touchy subject. Just ask him about your concerns but ask the right way not accusingly give him a comfortable environment especially your emotional vibe.
2006-08-17 03:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not gay. He could be bi or on the "down-low".
Either way, if you do not want to put yourself at risk, say good-bye now. If not, stay and LIVE with your decision. But get your tubes tied and don't bring any children into the world with this man.
2006-08-17 03:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your guy is playing for both teams. I don't know whether you mind that or not, but here's the problem -- if he's lying to you about being with other people, he's cheating on you. It's time to confront him with what you've noticed. If he won't give up being with other people, and monogamy is important to you, you need to move on.
2006-08-17 03:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you bf loves you very much and doesn't wanna hurt your feelings by telling you he is gay or bisexual and is sleeping with men. Have you tried asking him what the jar of vasoline is for?
2006-08-17 03:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Midnight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be a liitle concerned and do a little investigating. Hope everything works out.
2006-08-17 03:16:59 · answer #11 · answered by Terri A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋