If i cant have a girlfriend, then there is no reason 4 me to live is there?

Question

i am tired of this, and am almost to the breaking point. Why is god doing this too me, do i deserve it, no, i deserve to live a life just like every other person gets to live. If i cant experience love, or being in relationships, then there is no reason 4 me to remain alive. it isnt worth it to go day and day out feeling like i'm the scum of the earth.

Answer 1

Is the quality of your life really dependent on the presence of a girlfriend in it? Shouldn't be. It is a good thing to have love in your life, but it's not the only worthwhile thing in life. I've had lovers, and I've gone alone for extended periods. Each has its pros and cons. Ultimately, you have to find meaning in life itself and the many things it has to offer. Moreover, you're more likely to be appealing to others if you have a less desperate view of life. Carpe diem, and maybe then some sweet lady will want to carpe you. Good luck, and keep punchin'

Answer 2

I would like to suggest that you take this "alone" time as just that! Time for you to make new friends, get out, read self-help books on how to better your self-esteem or even on how to get over a relationship in a healthy way. Killing yourself will only allow others to know that they did actually make the best decision by leaving you. However, getting on with your life and possibly even changing it for the better will catch their attention. It will open a door for them to decide that there may be "something" to you after all and that they were wrong, which will also open many more doors for you because by the time others see how good you are doing, you will have made more friends and experienced a little more of what life has to offer. At this time you will be able to decide whether that person who dumped you is even worth your time any more. Seems to me as if you might want to do an on line search for "signs of a healthy relationship" and learn more about the problems that you are experiencing, so that you can fight them. The more knowledge you have, the easier it will be for you to win. Just remember; it took this many years for you to get to this point, you aren't going to be able to fully change over night. Please don't ever think so little of your life that you shouldn't live it. I mean, look at how long you have been able to live BEFORE this person came into your life.

Answer 3

Let me give you an example and maybe this will help you. I am 37 years old. I have been single my whole life. I tried to meet girls and I would but it would never work ouy. I did the personal ads on the internet for years and would meet some girls but they would never workout for one reason or another. I got down, very depressed, wondering why I was even alive and did not want to be around anymore. Then one day out of the blue I started talking to a girl from teh internet and we e-mailed for about two months before moving on to talking on the phone and we finally met in person three months later. When I went to her house to pick her up I went in and saw her, it was love at first site and I knew within my heart that she was the one to spend the rest of my life with. We got married June 20th and I have never been happier than I am now. I look back now and tell myself, I wished that we could have met earlier but things happen for a reason and it was well worth the wait. Just don't give up. There is someone out there for you. It will happen when you least expect it to and you will know that person is the right one for you when it happens. Stop looking so hard. Just keep you head up and things will work out. Sometimes it don't happen when we want it to but it is worth the wait when it does. Hang in there!!

Answer 4

SWEETIE, U R WORTH IT!! It's not u, but maybe the people that u try 2 put in your life as a significant other. U have a terrible case of low self esteem, if ur capable of loving urself, then someone will b able 2 love u in return. Self love is always the best love!!(NO PUN INTENDED!!) When u figure out who u r as an individual a union between urself & another will b able 2 take place, fix urself, GOD WILL ALWAYS fix everything else!! GOD DOES NOT hurt us, we hurt ourselves!!! He'll make a way 4 u, just don't give up, the world will b a sad & lonely place without u!!!

Answer 5

Let me ask you this. when you came into this world, did you have one? when you was learning to function in this world before now? did you need one then? Are you saying that life as you live it, is no good unless you have someone, and suppose you DO get someone can you try to coexist with her and have a healthy relationship or do you wish to dominate her time? let me tell you this. I don't have no one special in my life; I was married, and now by choice, I am alone. yes, there are times I am real lonely; but then again, I have to remind myself that I didn't come in this world with someone, and I sure ain't going out with one; does that make me scum of the earth? heck no!! Let me ask you this; isn't there anything besides being with someone that interests you? any hobbies or causes that you are passionate about? something that can take away from the fact that you have no one? and also, isn't there someone or something you believe in? and most importantly, are you emotionally ready to handle the rigors of a relationship?? look, God didn't bring u in this world just to be with someone, you got to have a well rounded balanced life to do that; hope this helps you and please know that you are not scum; cause i know I'm not. Peace.

Answer 6

You are going threw a test and it clearly seems like you can't be alone. An if you don't know how to be alone and act how are you going to be with someone and act. It won't be long a girl or a woman is not everything yeah you want to be happy and married w/ kids. But you have to wait and search. You have every reason to be alive just because there is no woman now that doesn't mean give up. I know because I was once just like you and as soon as I attempt to give up I found somebody that was everything I wanted.

Answer 7

Just a heads up: you should never bring god nor the word "deserve" in any topic of love or relationship issues. god isnt doing anything to you (or against you) and no one ever will DESERVE love. If/when you find it (and 99.9% of people do, they just dont act on it at the right time), you should be thankful. Don't bring pity to this place by hating being single. EVERYONE has been there.

Answer 8

Live is a test. Will I get through this hard time, or will i give up and break. I was going through the same exact thing as u, and that was mostly because I thought about having a boyfriend tooo much, I stopped obsessing and someone found me. hard times make u stronger.
PS when I got a boyfriend it wasnt all that, now i love being single, I get to flirt, go out, just enjoy life!!

Answer 9

WOW: What could possibly be worth death??? Just cuz your single?? Thats ludacris. You need to take a step back and actually look at your life and figure out what you wanna do with it. There are many options in the world- death should not be one. Life is filled with the promise of tomorrow. So many things can change in one day, all you have to do is stick around long enough to find out what will happen. Faith is a candle aglow in the night, showing the way with its comforting light, urging us onward, whatever's before us, shining with promise to heal and restore us.
Tomorrow may bring miracles sweets. Death is not the answer.

Answer 10

It just takes some people longer to find the right person. Just have some patience. There is someone out there for everyone. I know it may not feel like it now, but it's true. I felt the same way last year...so I know what you're going through. I still havent found a guy that's right for me...but trust me, you'l find someone. Good luck<3