I know this sounds crazy. I don't want to be in a serious relationship. I want to date, and that is about it. I'm not saying that I want to date different guys. I just want to date one guy, but only with the intention of just dating. I want to know how far is to far before you are their girlfriend.
2006-08-17 02:58:16 · 12 answers · asked by Crazychick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not crazy at all. The dating part of a relationship is great fun. The best couples I know never stopped dating, even after they got married. I guess that would qualify it as serious :) but they still go out often, they call each other at work to say 'I love you' and they go off to have dirty weekends.
You have to decide whether the part you don't like about a serious relationship is the loss of affection or the feeling of attachment to someone. Would it bother you if there was someone you didn't feel that you could just throw out of your life? If loving someone doesn't bother you, then you are just not happy with the apparent stagnation that happens in a relationship as the people get more familiar with each other.
If you want the love, just not the obligation and complacency, then do the following: record every time the guy you are with doesn't call for one whole day or is even a moment late for a meeting with you without calling in advance to apologize vehemently for his tardiness. Unless he has a very good excuse for it (his phone was stolen, he was in a car accident, or he got kidnapped) dump him. He has started to take you for granted and you will no longer enjoy it. But if a guy treats every day until the end of your life as a first date, do you really want to throw it away because he wants to stay with you?
2006-08-17 03:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation never works out! The purpose of dating is to find one person that you like and can spend time with. If you find a person like this, your not gonna be thier gf? Whats the point of dating in the first place then? If your not ready for a relationship then maybe you shouldn't "Date". Maybe you should just hangout with "friends" and dont get involved with sex, because that immediately creates problems in this situation.
2006-08-17 10:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by john k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to see that your objectives are clear in what you want to do with your life. When you meet someone, try to make it clear from the beginning about what it is that you want. That way, the guy knows exactly where you stand and you can have a wonderful relationship without the expectations of marriage. At least not that soon.
Good for you! Any time a woman has her goals clear and her mind made up about what she wants, it's a sign that she will be successful in life.
2006-08-17 10:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nestor Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are upfront about your intentions, I don't think you will have a problem with this. When guy starts becoming more demanding then you are willing to give in to, then it has perhaps gone too far.
2006-08-17 10:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grl, u have to tell him that u just wanna be friends with benefits. Still, if u like the guy, then u will be jealous if he goes out w other grls. I know b/c it's happening to me. I dont want anything serious, but i wanna date sommebody. My advice, clear up w him b4 going out. Tell him u dont want anything serious, maybe he will agree and it willbe ok.
2006-08-17 10:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cubanita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue "dating" for over a month... and neither of you are dating anyone else... then you are boyfriend/girlfriend. Hope this helps.
2006-08-17 10:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats cool, you know what you want. Just hang out with him and have some fun. Just do't make it a daily thing, say once a week or so.
2006-08-17 10:05:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on you, and what you tell him when you go out.let him know how far you will and will not go up front,so he knows.even if you have sex, it doesnt mean he will want you as a steady girl.
2006-08-17 10:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spending the night, seeing each other often, i think if you're exclusive you're together, people view you as a couple and not as two people seeing each other.. um, it's really what it is to you
2006-08-17 10:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by attila 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you go on the second date and have sex and stay at his place for a week!then I would think that you might like me(alot).
2006-08-17 10:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋