My parents are in good health but getting Old ( in mid sixties) .I really Need To know what Their Wishes are! If something happens to Dad. I would Wind up HAVING to take care of Mother. I have an Older Brother who hasnt worked in 3 years, has hip problems and suffers from depression, I'd probably have to take care of him too. there is also a Cousin they raised since she was 5 ( not adopted) and Dad has said Many Time she isnt getting One Cent because of her Lying and Manipulating people to make him look bad :-s .... I just want to be sure the house can be kept, so that I can take care of ALL these problems I see coming in the future :-s and To KNOW just WHAT their Wishes Really are uggggg Thanks for any advice
2006-08-17 02:51:58 · 10 answers · asked by D B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would do it soon (out of experiance my MIL got sick on a monday noting major and died the following monday. we knew nothing about what she wanted wheather or not she had insurance nothing at all, she never spoke of it. so i am a giant advocate for letting people know whats wanted and where things are (ie insurance policies) hope this helps
2006-08-17 02:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by dragonflies_42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best time is while they're still living. A better time is after the loss of a friend and or family member.
For me, when my dad's YOUNGER brother died, I asked him what he wanted since he lives out of state and is single.
While I do not have a "will" as such, at this point I at least have burial plans/wishes. One step at a time.
My mother on the other hand is in much poorer health and she "won't discuss it". I told her fine, than my brother (who sounds a lot like yours), can handle her arrangements.
Unfortunately, if you do not know your parents financial situation, you don't know if the house can be "kept". My friends parents house was paid for however, when her last parent died, she discovered the house was not free and clear, there were liens against it for unpaid bills, etc.
You can offer to take them to an attorney to make their plans (and you pay).
In addition in many places possession is 9/10 of the law, so if your brother is IN the house and YOU are not....good luck getting him removed.
Be polite, be brief, be firm.
2006-08-17 10:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be a bad idea. Just ask them in a non-chalent way and everything will be fine.
The worst they can do is yell at you, but you are showing them that you would be willing to take on whatever burden(s) they may have or accrued.
It's obvious your brother can't do it. All I would ask is that they take it into serious consideration because it is inevitable and it won't solve itself.
Good luck
2006-08-17 09:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by Renee25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sounds like the responsible one in the family. I know its awkward, so one way to ease into it is to write your OWN will. You will need to do this anyway, since even if your parents have one, and you are provided the resources you need to take care of things, you'd still want to have your own will to make sure those duties and wishes carry on if something should happen to you.
So you could begin your own will, talk to your parents about that, and that should ease pretty naturally into their own situation.
2006-08-17 09:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rjmail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you need to discuss their will and end of life plans, then set aside a time for them and you to do this. Tell them that you want to be prepared so that you can honor their wishes. Good luck!
2006-08-17 10:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sooner the better, if you are concerned about taking care of them, you might want to also think about Long Term Care Insurance. (Genworth is a great company)
2006-08-17 09:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should pick a time when it is just you and your dad and ask him out right... just explain that you want to make sure his wishes are carried out but you're not sure exactly what his wishes are so could he verify(preferably iin writing) them so there is no misunderstanding
2006-08-17 09:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by jeanette98070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask them before anything happens to them.
2006-08-17 09:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a special day of it and discuss it then.
2006-08-17 09:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question and your problems don't match up
2006-08-17 09:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋