Encouragement for parents sending their child to off to college?

Question

The guy I'm dating is sending his daughter off to college. He has been separated from his wife for 1 1/2 yrs and the daughter has been living w/ him. She's 18 but he's been her support. Very stressful situation.... I just wanted some advice on how to offer encouragement w/out sounding like its just another step in life....My daughter is still at home so I haven't experienced this stop in life. (She's 16) so I will know soon enough but wanted to know how others have handled it & some things that have helped them deal w/ this change in their life...

Answer 1

Our children are lent to us for a little while, not to keep close beside us forever. The most important thing we can do for them is to raise them to be strong and independent and caring and able to fly on their own. You are entering a new phase in your relationship with your child, and that is how it should be. You will find that this new relationship is quite amazing as you watch your child develop and grow into a mature young adult.

You are also about to enter a new and exciting phase in your life. You will have more freedom to do some other things, less day to day responsibility. You will feel younger than you have felt in years.

Embrace the new experiences .... this is how life is meant to be. Think how exciting life is for your child right now and rejoice in that experience with them. Your child will be fine, and so will you!

I hope these thoughts help.

Answer 2

I remember when my 19 year old went off to college for the first time... It was like sending her off to Kindergarten all over again.. Stay strong, cry alot but only after you are away from your child and call them at least once a week.. I know how you feel but it will be OK.. You know you raised a responsible, well adjusted young adult.
You have done all you can and now it is time for them to "spread their wings and grow"

Answer 3

I sent my oldest of to college three years ago, with a lot of worry about how she would do, being so far from home and having to make new friends among strangers. She's done fine. In fact, she has grown up in ways that she never would have if she had stayed close to home. She may have made a few dumb decisions along the way (who doesn't?) but for the most part she has lived up to all we had expected of her and more. She is now entering her last year of undergrad and is in the process of applying to medical school. We are so proud of her. College has allowed her to blossom and grow up. You have to let go and trust that they take with them all you have taught them. So shed a few tears, but trust that everything will be okay. Our job is to raise them up so we can let them go.

Answer 4

I'll be going off the university in the fall. Just know that without love ans support they probably wouldn't have been able to reach this point. You have succeeded in raising a strong, independent young adult who is now able to take care of themselves (and to think you changed their diapers just a few years ago..okay like 18 years ago, but you get the point). That is a huge accomplishment on both of your parts, so be proud of your son/daughter, and also be proud of yourself.

And don't worry...we may really want freedom and independence, but we still need you, our parents/guardians for love and support.

Good luck!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

r u sending your child off to college?
the best encouragement is your child will have a better shot in this world.
college is a great stepping stone for all of us.
and the people who dont go regret it sometime or another, i do!

Answer 7

Hi! Could you add some additional details to your question specifying whether you want:

a) things to encourage parents on how to send a child to college

b) things to encourage parents on how to live without their child

c) things for parents to encourage their kids who are going off to college

Or it might help if you worded your question as a personal thing, for example, "My child is going off to college, and I'm looking for some encouragement about living without her/him..."

Answer 8

You have raised you child the best that you could. You have instilled in them alot of lessons and values. Now it's time to let your child go into the real world. Pray for them everyday and they will be find.

Answer 9

Be proud....
Take time for yourself
Pursue your dreams
Give yourself permission to have a pity party and cry
then move on
focus on you
Of coarse you may still have other kids at home and this may not apply to you, lol! Seriously it will be okay.

Answer 10

Don't blow it. Just kidding. Very proud of you. Decisions you make will determine the rest of your life. Be wise. Be smart. and have fun.