I really like this one guy and he's told me that he loves me.(aaah!) He asked me to be his girlfriend and I told him I would think about it.
The thing is, I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend before and I never bothered myself about it. On the contrary, I even love being celibate. I love the freedom and the lack of problems, but I'm also dying to love someone and be loved. I'm also worried I might not make a good girlfriend since I'm so inexperienced and he is.
I'd love to be his gf but I dunno if I want to give up my celibacy cause what if it doesn't work out? Then I'd be heartbroken and wish I'd never dated in the first place, blablabla!
What should I do?? It's the first time I ever trully like someone and he love me back!
Help!
2006-08-17 02:44:05 · 11 answers · asked by Au Naturelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like him, go for it. Celibacy can always be a choice you return to. Life is too short not to take chances.
2006-08-17 02:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's no rule saying that if you are his girlfriend, that means you immediately have to sleep with him. Just be sure to let him know you want to take things slow, & that you don't want to immediately jump into bed. Truly, you don't technically have to sleep with anyone until you get married if you don't want to have sex. Make sure he understands he'll have to take things at your pace. If he respects you enough to honor your wishes, you may just end up deciding in the future you don't like being celibate anymore. If he can't be patient with you, then that may mean he wasn't right for you anyway. Just don't deprive yourself of a social life altogether simply because you are afraid of sex. Even if you're a virgin, that doesn't mean your lack of experience will make you a bad girlfriend. Trust me, there are plenty of guys who would love the opportunity to show a virgin or inexperienced girl the ropes. Just go out to a few dinners, movies, & other activities, & see what happens. Best of luck.
2006-08-17 09:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Celibacy is a choice not a requirement if your dating...I think it would be beneficial if you were to begin dating this person and if you feel comfortable make it exclusive by accepting to be bf/gf...but give it a try , I think you may lack in the social skill department and this will allow you to better prepare yourself to make a educated guess instead of head over heels into a romantic relationship....take it slow and learn as you go.....don't do anything you don't want to do...it is not up to any guy how your life is going to progress its up to you.
2006-08-17 09:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I highly doubt he truly "loves" you yet unless you have been his friend for a long time--
You don't have to give up your "celibacy." Date the guy, you don't have to marry or have sex with the first guy you date, and I probably wouldn't recommend it until you are absolutely sure you love him.
Don't let him pressure you to do anything you aren't comfortable with doing, and don't let him pressure you into telling him you love him, when right now you just like him.
And lastly, just because you have a boyfriend, doesn't mean you should lose all of your freedom. Be yourself, and take time for yourself and your friends sometimes.
2006-08-17 09:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by anabele6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give it a try...you say you're "dying to love someone and to be loved". And being in a relationship doesnt mean losing your freedom, you can always get some time off for yourself
2006-08-17 09:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by giulai1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that may about him and he in turn feels that way about you then go for it. You only live once and going through life afraid will get you nowhere. It's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
2006-08-17 10:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by kt367521 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you like to keep your celibacy you can, just tell him that you want to wait for sex after marriage or whenever you feel ready. you dont need to have sex to be b/f and g/f. if you love him go for it. just remember to not have sex until YOU are ready.
2006-08-17 09:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance. Celibancy will alway be there, he may not.
2006-08-17 09:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by greenejl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him I think it is worth the shot.
2006-08-17 09:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by aimee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what's your problem!?? Go right ahead for him. or else you might regret bitterly!
2006-08-17 09:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Stiggs! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋