I found some stuff from my bfs EX when i was cleaning our apartment (i recently moved in to his place). I have also found food left by the ex. Weve been together for one year and he still hasnt managed to get rid of everything from the ex! I feel bad, what should i do? Tell him too sleep on the sofa? burn everything?
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2006-08-17 02:40:37 · 26 answers · asked by MaryJane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow if you immediately jump to "making him sleep on the sofa" for a few things left over from his ex...I'm afraid of how you typically react to other situations. Someone already said it best...you moved into HIS space, and as much as I'm sure he's accommodating how you want certain things to look, you have to be patient. A man's territory is sacred and it is not easy giving that up (even if he hides it well). Just talk to him about it, nicely...and I'm sure everything will be fine!
2006-08-17 02:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by USC Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the stuff old or recently used stuf.It could have been left from before you moved in.Sometimes a EX that feels they caused the break up is hard to shake off.They'll leave food,buy you clothing and buy things they know you like trying to get you back.I found a bag in my drive way last week that had 2 shirts a pair of short pants,some candy bars ,soap ,deodorant,i don't know what all,I'm not dating anyone but we've been divorced since march this year.she will leave messages on my phone telling me how much she cares for me,then how much she hates me.I block her phone no.she goes to a pay phone.I can't ever take her back because of what she did to my daughter,her step daughter,It doesn't matter if i did want her,but i don't,I had her put in jail for what she did.I don't know what to do,I just hope she finds someone else.
BUT ON THE OTHER HAND IF HE IS ENCOURAGING HER
THEN THAT'S DIFFERENT,I wouldn't play second fiddle to anyone.I think you should find out if its him or just her before you make any judgment.She could be leaving things to make you jealous hoping you will leave him.Talk to him,get to the bottom of this before you leave.OK.BEST OF LUCK AND I HOPE THINGS TURN YOUR WAY.
2006-08-17 03:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by freshstart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him about it, but don't make it an issue as he'll think your whining. Guys don't see the sentimental value in things like girls do, so he may not understand. He probably sees the stuff left behind as just wasteful crap he needs to get rid of someday, not as leftovers of a relationship. It may be easier if you box the crap up and say it's taking up necessary space and what should you do with it. Then you won't have to worry about him getting around to doing it. If he wants to keep it, then maybe you need to go find another couch to sleep on - and don't leave any of your stuff behind! Good luck.
2006-08-17 02:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't completely "delete" everything of someones past. I'm sure you have a few photo's that you want to keep so you can look back on them (some tie in the future). He might just be a little lazy, how can you tell who's food it is, must be pretty moldy after 1 year?
2006-08-17 02:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Not everyone attaches to their exes like everyone else. A box of crackers from his previous relationship isn't going to threaten your relationship.
It is fairly safe to assume if he wanted you to move in, then he is in love with you and she is a memory. If you find pictures and stuff, remember that is a chunk of his life with her. Even if the physical pieces are gone, the memories will still be there and you can't get rid of those.
2006-08-17 02:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what ? Your angry about food she left there ???? Throw it out. I mean you know he wasn't dead before you met him right ? Of course people are going to have things from ex's left over. Just throw it out. And no, dont make him sleep on the sofa.
2006-08-17 02:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say some food stuff then it means he still misses his EX.
So just make sure whats in his heart/mind............. Burning etc wont help if he has s soft cornor for her.
the best way to find this out just ask him some questions regarding the stuff and you would get to know that if he hasnt got rid of the thingz due to laziness or due to ....................
I wish you all the best,
Take care
2006-08-17 02:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why don't you trust him? SO what if he has some of her stuff from BEFORE. She was part of his life, good or bad. Ask him about it and if you can get rid of it or not. Worst case stick all her stuff in a box and close it and hide it in some deep dark place
2006-08-17 03:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be shackin' up to start with. he's a boy for crying out loud, most of them can't even find their own socks in the morning. they don't keep up with what's in all their drawers and closets and stuff like that. get over it, you're only gonna make things worse if you harp on. let it go. throw out the other girls junk and be glad that she's gone.
get right with God and stay that way. peace.
2006-08-17 02:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u don't feel comfortable at allllllllllll seein these things , he either gets rid of them or u go to sleep over somewhere else (if u can) so that u won't see these things or he goes to the sofa since u can't be intimate with him!
2006-08-17 02:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋