What would you do if your mate was checking on your Yahoo Q&A?

Question

My fiane checks my Q&A, but I know he does it looking for some dirt. I don't know it's like he gets off doing this snooping stuff. It's a big turn off and makes me feel like I have to refrain from speaking freely and like I am a child! What would you do?

*fiancé (misp)

When I say speak freely, I mean ask a question about us and get advice he feels as though I am allowing other people to judge him. Secondly, he snoops because his ex wife was a a stealthy cheater!

Answer 1

that would piss me off too. you got right to be upset with him.

Answer 2

It depends. I mean my husband and I used to trust each other without question then something happened that broke down our trust so we have this understanding that we are very open with every thing that we do. But maybe you are hurt b/c he doesn't trust you. If you haven't given him a reason to feel this way then you need to talk to him and ask him for privacy. You should have nothing to hide. Tell him you are an open book and anything he wants to know just ask. I think people earn the trust they recieve. If you have earned his trust then I suggest you try to put a stop to it by talking to him or create a new secret account if it annoys you that much.

Answer 3

If your not doing anything wrong, then you have no reason to be upset about it........ maybe its not you he is checking on, but rather the people that respond to you. Maybe he finds it interesting and he likes the questions you ask, maybe its another way of him to get closer to knowing you and the way your mind works, how you think? I would be flattered and it would be a deffinite step up for the guy I am with, he could careless who I talk to or even whats being said. He says its because he trusts me and he doesn't care to know about that kind of stuf. For me, it would be nice if he cared enough just once to look inside of me and want to see how I think and whats on my mind. To actually care if I am being flirted with and if I am responding back........ trust me....... at least your guy cares and is interested in the whole 'KNOWING' , its better then being with a guy for 4 yrs and find yourself still trying to get him to care just a little to see some sort of territorial action as far as your concerned, it hurts when they tell you that they don't care and there not worried, because they just don't get into stuff like that....... my guy gets on and answers some questions, but never asks any and never looks me up to check out my 360 page or my profile. If I were you, I would find the sexiness in what your fiance is doing and be flattered, because here on the other side of the table..... is dissappointing and hurting. Blessed be.............

Answer 4

It would annoy me. I say try looking at his stuff in return just to make him feel what you're feeling. Don't go too far though, I mean it's not that big of a deal, I know people who snoop on their partners' phone calls and stuff. Also ask him why he does that, I know you probably have but try to make him see this thing from your perspective.
Good luck!

Answer 5

For you: are you hiding anything from your fiance? Why would you not be able to speak freely when he's reading?
For him: does he not trust you? What is it that he's hoping to find by reading your Q&A?

There seems to be a trust issue in this relationship and it needs to be resolved before you two get married.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I recommend making a new yahoo account and using that nick here so he can't keep track of you. You can still answer some mundane questions on your old account just so that he doesn't get suspicious that you stopped completely. It's deception, but he definitely asked for it. Confronting him will do no good because he will then just wonder what it is that you want to hide from him. Being watched like that really sux.

Answer 7

Just password protect your screen name and then make him his own account if you have xp.Go to start \ control panel \ user accounts.It's easy and wont take but a minute of two.Then don't give out your password to anyone,then you need to tell him what you just told us.Get these little things worked out BEFORE the big day and anything else you haven't done. There's still time,Good luck.

Answer 8

I don't have anything to hide, but just the fact that he is snooping, trying to find dirt on me, i wouldn't be happy either. Start going through his things and see how he feels about that.

Answer 9

Why do you think he's looking for dirt? Do you have something to hide from him in your Q&A which triggers a guilt complex leading you to think he's looking for dirt? If you're going to marry him you really shouldn't have anything to hide from him on here or any where else. If you do have something to hide then this or any other site is not a good place to exercise it.

Answer 10

Does he let you snoop in on his stuff too ? if not then he is probably not 100% honest with you and is worried that you may not be 100% honest with him. I think you should ask for all his passwords and check out his stuffs too .. see how he reacts.

Answer 11

I would tell him to cut it out. If it bugs you tell him that he should trust you and that snooping means he isn't ready to trust you to be a full partner in life.However... I do have to say that I regularly post questions on my boyfriend's Q&A to annoy him (like What should I do to stop being such a jerk to my girlfriend?). So I guess I am the pot calling the kettle black.