never liked any one that i worked with befor
and i have a problem trusting guys caus of a bad past
2006-08-17 02:13:53 · 10 answers · asked by r_null_va 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dating someone you work with is never a good idea. You should just be friends. If you force him you will lose his friendship and possibly your job if he decides to report you to HR for harrassment.
2006-08-17 02:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by ModelFlyerChick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is respect his wishes and just be his friend. years ago I was in a similar situation. I liked this guy and he liked me. But I just liked him as a good friend. And him? He wanted to go out with me. Bottom line is this: if you keep pressing on, he will run the other way. You can't get someone to like you the way that you like them. So back off and find someone else. And not in the work place.Trust me on this one. I am dating that guy and we work together. Everyone knew when we were fighting, when we were not, blah, blah. Its like being in a fish bowl. Now, I work in a different building so I don't ever get to see him. So, I can now concentrate on work and so can everyone else.
2006-08-17 09:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by whoanelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he wants to be friends, theres nothing you can say or do to change his feelings, you cant force him to be with you or anything. So i think you should move on, find someone else who isnt at work. or if your not ready since you had a bad past than wait a little while, you dont NEED a guy. we all just want one, you can live without them, Its notlike youll die without one, take as much time as you need till your completly ready and feel safe and can trust them, Because if a guy knows you cant trust him, It all goes Downn hill from there.
2006-08-17 09:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by STFUbeezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your concern is right,
Never trust any person before judgeing him in your own ways.
past experiences are the guideline for us and use that experiences in your present,
I would like to suggest you be always open minded and never feel hasitation.
Pure heart always win, Remember that truth prevails in the long run.
the person whom u are giving importance see that to is he give importance to the tangibel thing or human feelings? I would like to suggest u never trust any person who give more imporant to money then the moral.
Bye...
Amit Prajapati
Give reply if possible
2006-08-17 09:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by amit_starfortitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be just friends, then be "just friends"...
Its safer than trying to "force" yourself on him, as he may have a girlfriend already, and will resent you for your intrusion upon his life.
(Also, his girlfriend or Wife, will not appreciate it either!)...
Or, he may have been burned as well, and not ready to start a new relationship at this time, so, give him a lot of space...
Another possibility is, that you dont appeal to him at all...(Yes, there "are" some people that I wouldnt date, if I were single, because they dont appeal to me...its like she could be my Sister, but, not my Wife or Girlfriend)...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-08-17 09:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not a good idea to date someone in the work place, pluss you just said he wants to be friends. So, no dont date him.
2006-08-17 09:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sammy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends to start. See how things go. Its ok to TAKE YOUR TIME. Ask him along on things that are not a date. Get to know him and him you
2006-08-17 09:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO JUST BE HIS FRIEND THERE S NOTHIN WRONG WITH HANGIN WITH A DUDE AND GETTING TO KNOW HIM BETTER IF YOU GUYS HAVE A VIBE YA CAN GO FROM THERE IF NOT YA GAIN A NEW FRIEND,
2006-08-17 09:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by DAT CHIC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just have to respect his decision..
Coz if you push yourself to him, he might not want to even be friends you.. keep the friendship and let him fall for you.. ^_^
2006-08-17 09:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by Black_Rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friends for now and then see what happens
2006-08-17 09:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋