Parents - do you pay as much for your son's wedding as your daughter's?

Question

How do you split the bill - 50/50?
We just paid for half of our son's wedding.
NOW my wife told me we will probably be paying for 80% (or more) of our daughter's because the boy's family isn't going to pay much. I told my wife we would pay for half and she is mad. It's only fair OR should I pay more?

ThePartyGirl - this is Mrs. E -THANK YOU!
That's what I say!

Answer 1

Sorry, Daddy.....it's just the name of the game. Wouldn't want to disappoint your baby girl's dream day, would you? Good Luck and get out the credit card!

Answer 2

In this day and age I don't think that there should be strict rules about this type of thing. It should all depend on the circumstances. There should be an open communication between you and your children and between the fiancee and his/her parents. If one side is able to pick up more than half the bill and are happy to do so, why not? No-one should feel cheated or superior because they put in more or less than the other. If it comes down to the fact that there isn't enough money to go around, you should just think about a cheaper wedding.

Answer 3

Much depends on where you are from. I am a Singaporean. By tradition the boy's family will pay for the girl's family "x" number of tables (each table consists of 10 seats for diners). It may come up to approximately 10-20% of the total dinner cost. Any additional tables needed will be paid for by the girl's family.

As to cost of costumes, jewellery etc., usually the girl's will pay for their own and the boy's theirs.

This again depends on which race you belongs to since Singapore is a cosmopolitan society and we have Europeans, Chinese, Malays and Indians living together.

Answer 4

The bride's family is typically supposed to pay for most if not all of her wedding. You were generous is paying for half of your son's, however, you shouldn't have been expected to.