I have just become a father. Have I any right to think that my son will find happiness and peace where I have found it. When am I responsible, if he has a harder childhood in order to develop a stronger character as a man, is that not an excuse for any action?
2006-08-17 02:01:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are expected to pass along any experience that will benefiet your child, be it knowledge or hands on teaching.
If you are a caring, sensible Dad, who protects his child and nurtures him to be a contributing member of Society, then you have done your part.
If you physically abuse, or mentally abuse him, in order to "make him a man", then you are doing him a disfavor,and you should be locked up for "his" own good!!
Your Son must make his own way in the World. He can benefiet from your teachings, and you can try to give him the benefiet of your wisdom, but, each person will make mistakes and all you can do, is be there for the "fall" and help him over the 'rough spots' in life.
Coddling the child, is a disfavor to Society! They will think everything should come easy and if it doesnt, they will not understand why it isnt that way. Obstacles are what builds character, by overcoming each of them, in thier own way. But, do not deliberately put obstacles in the young man's way, in order to hinder him, or he may grow up to resent you for your actions...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-08-17 02:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son will learn things from every where and find happiness and peace where he wants. if he has a had chilldhood, well that can be a good thing at time it make him realize righ from wronge. just be there for him. calm down you will be a great father. just try to always be a part of his life. as he gets older he will do things that will make you mad uoset andhappy. just ont always try to mkae him into what u want him to be. if you smother him and keep him to close to u as he becaomes teenager he will just ignor everything you say and want. another tip. dont be too strick. if you are he will just.... how do i say this? things will only get worst. trust me. my parents dome the same thing adn now i am 16 living with my boyfriend in his apartment and have a restringing order on both of them. you will do fine stop worring so much. i have a baby too. i have just become a mother and i have learned that i want to do everything right not keep her too close so i dont end up really pushing her to do everyhting i done wronge. and my parents done wrong . good luck . if you need any more help. email me and i will writ u back. justinsbabygirl_4eva@Yahoo.com
2006-08-17 02:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son might not find happiness where you found it, but as long as you love him and support him he will grow up with not only a strong character, but a strong sense of who is. The best thing you can offer your son is a strong foundation of love, acceptance, and pride at home. Let him know that you will be his father no matter what, that you will help him thru his mistakes, and applaud all of his accomplishments. Let him live his life...He has a purpose...Just be there if he should ever need guidance on his journey. =)
2006-08-17 07:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to help your son in life, I suggest you take evening courses in English, as your question isn't very well formulated.
Congratulations on becoming a father. Look after him. Try not to spoil him. Teach him to respect others and to think for himself.
If you want to create a monster, try controlling every thing he does and says. If you want to have an idiot layabout, spoil him and never criticise him. There is a very wide line between the two extremes.
The key to success is time. Spend time with him, show him by example (thats how he learns), and maximise the "happy" environment.
Good luck.
2006-08-17 02:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by David R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have truly found happiness and peace then your example and loving care as a father ought to be enough. There is no rule book when bringing up kids. You must rely on your own judgements and remember that although you will have a big influence on him he has his own personality which must be allowed freedom to grow in its own way.
2006-08-17 02:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mick H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you are planning to do for him, or how you will raise him and any restrictions you think will set are fairy land stuff. Raising kids is a very hard job you learn as you go and you will make mistakes and so will he no matter how hard you try. Sometimes you will try to hard. Remember you and he are only human. Let him develop his own personality and will for life he is his own person and not to be treated as a piece of clay that you can mold. Nurture him and love him no matter what. Good luck and congratulations.
2006-08-17 02:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by starchild_kisschild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first few years of your sons life is crucial to what you put in and make it all positive!! if you input confindence lots of love hugs and happiness. your child will grow up strong and be able to deal with what life throws at him, with confidence. and become emotionally stable. any hardships that a chilkd can encounter can make them strong on the outside but not full on the inside. He will be his own person. you just support him all the way..
2006-08-17 02:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsunbear77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him enjoy being a child. Play with him, love him, be there for him. Let him experience a variety of stimulating activities, answer his questions, encourage him. Discipline him where necessary, and draw your own boundaries and let him know what these are. But don't be too hard!
My goal for my new son is to hope that he is a HAPPY child, teenager, young man and adult.
2006-08-17 02:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Michael T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a bit worried about being a father. Enjoy your time with your child and raise him the best you can. Don't worry what anyone else thinks about values as that's what makes us all different.
2006-08-17 06:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that what makes YOU happy...may NOT make him happier!! Life is tough enough~ why make him have a "harder childhood"~ let him be a kid..they are only little for such a short time.
2006-08-17 02:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋