would you be in a relationship with a man that is a good man to you?

Question

(single women answer) (No married women please!)
would you be in a relationship with a man that is loving and caring, loyal and honest,someone that loves and respect you for your, someone that will take you out and spend quality time with you, financially be their for you? one more thing he's married!, and please, ladies we dont need your blahh blahh, from the haters please! real women with open minds, that has been sitting waiting for years for a man, someone that goes to bed everynight alone, someone that would like to have someone to call and say" I miss you today" Oh and one more thing his wife knows he's seeing you! ooooh hot! let here your responds!

let me add a few hot details, the wife knows about you, and she is willing an love the idea of her husband having someone else in his life, to share good times, she has no problem with spliting the holidays, and the weekends, oh and he is very honest with you to tell you he has no reason to leave his wife because he loves her very much. but, he will respect you and love you as he do his wife...protect you as he do his wife.. and never compare you to his wife.... but love you as the woman you are... all he ask is your love and loyalty as he ask of his wife...his wife is a very good and caring woman that he have no complaints, his wife is rare because she was raised as a child to allow her husband to have another woman, with knowing that ladies he will be their for you as he do his wife he only ask that you respect this relationship as he ask of his wife. okay single women lets here your responds! and please! again single women please! No men! We totally understand your point of view.

Answer 1

I'm 42 and have always been single, maybe there's even a man that I love, but he NEVER even calls me to say he misses me, much less anything else. We never meet unless there's a specific reason to do so - something in particular we have to talk about, or a rehearsal (we're both musicians in an ensemble).

Sometimes I even think 'what if' about someone else. And the loving and caring, loyalty and honesty, love and respect, quality time that you mention, sound good. (I personally am not so particular about money, although obviously I don't want a freeloader).

On the other hand, I am the type who has to have additional reasons besides positive attention from him to get involved. I want to feel like there's something we can do together, probably which we are already doing together, but we'll be able to do it better if we become a couple.

I also dream of having that one special someone, that relationship of oneness, having just each other (literally - I am not able to have children anymore), putting each other first... I want to feel like God brought us together.

So for me, it is enough to know that the guy is married, and my decision is absolutely clear - for reasons having nothing whatsoever to do with his wife's approval or disapproval.

And so I hold out. I wake up, work at home in my apartment, go out shopping, prepare my meals, clean house, sing, play my violin, trade on the stock market, read my e-mail, write Yahoo Answers, maybe read the odd book, pray at various times throughout the day, and then go to bed - with no one but God beside me.

No doubt I would feel more motivated to fix fancier meals, clean house, make music or trade on the stock market if I had someone to eat with, someone to clean house with, someone to make music with, someone to make money for.

But I have a good life. I only found out how good life is when I had a close brush with death (cancer) a while back. Also, being alone gives me the opportunity to become more acutely conscious of the beauty of loving everyone more or less the same, and the beauty of not coming home to an empty house after all - because God is there.

His presence and His Word are what give me strength and right guidance. They bring me satisfaction - the deep satisfaction that every person needs in order to be sure that the only thing they are trying to accomplish, by entering into a given relationship, is love.

My wish for you is for you to experience that satisfaction and love for yourself. Then you will no longer have to ask (either now or in the future) whether the content of your private life is really what God intended, whether you are doing the right thing - because you will be doing it.

If you are single, you will be happy; if you have a partner, it will be just the way God created things from the beginning: one man and one woman joined together in a relationship of oneness by God Himself. Therefore, I would strongly urge you to seek God's love above all else - I can testify that His plan is really worth waiting for, as it is written:

"I have loved you with an everlasting love;
I have drawn you with loving-kindness." (Jeremiah 31:3)

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope." (Jeremiah 29:11)

May God bless you

Answer 2

personally i'd never date a married man, but i'm not knocking on anyone who does (unless its my husband lol). the problem with your situation is that there are SO many good points to this guy and then the huge problem is that hes not fully available to you. if you go into this relationship thinking he'll leave his wife and marry you, you might want to think twice bc even though men leave their wives for other women all the time, rarely do they ever marry the girls they cheat with. make sure he views you the way you view him and if the wife does know make sure you understand what she wants to do as far as a divorce or staying with her husband, because she has every right to stay with her husband. they are married after all. hope it works out for u and be careful! it could be a real heartbreaking situation.

Answer 3

i thought my story with the room mate ordeal was something but you've got something more than me! i definitely feel you though. it's hard to turn away from those things once you've gotten to know them and what they feel like. i want to be proper and tell you leave that married man alone! don't be wrecking no homes! but i would be lying not only to you but my damn self! see what is up with his wife. asking him is she not making him happy or why is he with you and not her. these questions will give you the understanding you need to whether or not proceed further with him. if he says he doesn't love his wife or doesn't want to be with her, anything to that extent, then further ask him the possibility of the two of you really having a relationship and becoming significant others. if he says yes, go for it, if he says no, baby girl i don't know. i know it would be hard for you to walk away from that good loving but i am going to tell you do what you think you need to do. do what feels right to you deep down in your heart. don't think about regrets or what is right or wrong. do what feels good. do what feels damn good!

Answer 4

He treats you good and you like him? You are a rare woman indeed. Oh thats right, he's married, he's not so good after all. He will do you the same way eventually.

Answer 5

YES!and u know why? because it is a real happiness for all women! forget his wife! she is simply a wife but u are the woman he loves! take your chance!!!!