After a year of emotional rollercoaster during our break-up.... we finally got the chance to talk.. me and my ex-boyfriend.. he still wants me back but I don't.. he was the one who broke up with me..
I feel so insecure about so many things at the moment.. But I do want to have a family someday.. I'm so scared about many things..
I still love the guy and care for him... but i wanted the closure and got it...
Moving on is so hard because we're together at church band.... and sometimes, i just can't control myself not to communicate with him..
Any advise on how to move on and just leave it all behind without hurting people.....
2006-08-17 01:46:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive been in a similar situation and now im so much better off without him in my life.Firstly he was the one to break it off with u in the first place.If he can do it to u once,he can do it again!Why move backwards when u can move forward.Im not saying be with the first guy u meet but spend some alone time with yourself.Its good for us.Consider it time to develop yourself and while you not even looking somebody great will come into your life.Trust me.Your happiness also counts.
2006-08-17 02:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I had that happen to me fortunately I am about 5 states away so I don't have to face my past like you at band practice and performances. I would definitely suggest that you either leave the band or get over him. I know it will take some time abrupt unfounded break-ups are painful to get over especially when the person breaks up with you. If you really think about it you may have closure but you have already got that now your wondering "What could we have been"? The only true way you will even begin to move on and put it behind you is to love again. So good luck and if you must stay in the band you have to face your past so go in there and take him lightly!
2006-08-17 01:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you must keep going on your life the way you feel , no obligations , no more promises , just act as a normal any other friend in a circle , do not get emotional about your past , he may hurt you again and you will be in bad shape , better avoid eye contacts and try to find another soul for your self for a happy and charming future .
2006-08-17 01:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 09:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember he broke up with you. Dont let him make you feel insecure. Take some time for yourself. I believe things happen for a reason. Love suppose to feel so good but its the worst pain ever, but time will heel
2006-08-17 02:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant worry about hurting other people when you are trying to get yourself together. If it is too hard to communicate with him...then DON'T do it. Let him know your trying to get yourself together and to do so you can not talk to him at this time. TIme will heal your heart and give you the strength you need to move on. I commend you for not willing to get back with him. G'luck!
2006-08-17 01:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guard you thots.he broke up with u, now he wants u back... i wud give a perfect answer but there are some missing pieces,,,u know; why did he break up, why does he want u back, for how long were u on separation...! sorry i just saw that, u were apart for a year, during that period, what was he up to? but since u love him still, then forgive him, but really question his intensions this time around. when u are convienced, forgive him and then kick it off from there.
2006-08-17 01:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stick to what u want and believe in and try to imagine what it would be like if u got back together and things fell apart again.
Talk to him but don't go out of ur way to do so.........Move on! It is hard but u can do it!
2006-08-17 01:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by fox69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a lot of people don't get "closure talks", so you should be able to use the information you learned to your advantage.
2006-08-17 01:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There will always be a hurt.
You have to physically distance yourself from him, as well as emotionally.
2006-08-17 01:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋