I married a girl for her looks and personalities, as her character is just coming out. After two years of marriage i have noticed that her interest in this relationship was to further her education which i can cope with, but of late she can not even share a kiss with me and complains when i try to be what i have always been. What can i do?
2006-08-17 01:26:17 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well.. this happens alot in india.. where r u from?
no dont divorce her.. just try to be more understanding.. maybe shes just depressed or needs some time alone.. if shes studyin let her continue & concentrate in it.. just leave her to herself, pretend to be very busy with ur work, ignore her for sometime.. dont try to be pushy or forceful.. be patient & she'll get back to her normal self soon when she sees ure busy on ur own..
2006-08-17 01:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you married her for her "personalities", maybe the nice wife will be back soon?
On a more serious note, ask her if she feels the marriage is failing and if she wants to do anything about it? If she does then go to Relate. If not, talk amicably about how you are going to dissolve the partnership, there's no point bopth of you being unhappy in a relationship.
2006-08-17 08:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by spartan74uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any marriage not based on love will ultimately fail. She got what she wanted and it seems she no longer needs you. Well I feel she is a user that's all !
Users usually marry a guy for what they can get. If they don't get what they want they move on to the next man from who they can get what they expect. Or has she met that man already.
Get into marriage counseling. You are already in deep trouble it seems.
2006-08-17 08:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that she is loosing interest... I would sit her down and have a serious discussion with her about your marriage.. Tell her how you feel and that you need to know where you stand with her... This way you won't continue waisting time. If she wants out, give it to her and find someone who will appreciate and love you, for who you are and what you stand for and the things you do.....
It's easier said then done, but it's better than waiting for answers to come to you.....
Good luck! God Bless!
2006-08-17 08:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her exactly how you feel and demand a straight answer. If she can't even tell you whats wrong then you have your answer. I have had times with my husband where I've been stressed and wanted nothing to do with him, but it wasn't him, I just needed some alone time. Or she might be depressed, or it could be something serious with you, but you'll never know unless you talk to her. Don't give up for no reason! Good luck!
2006-08-17 08:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd start checking up on her activities if I were you. Find out if she has a boyfriend. If so, dump her like yesterday's trash and find someone who will love and respect you. If not, start seeing a marriage counselor to see what you can do to fix the relationship.
2006-08-17 08:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definately married for the wrong reasons. I would have a serious talk and if it means divorce than that might be what yall need to be happy you don't want to be miserable for the rest of your life do you?
2006-08-17 08:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by mama2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's like this after only 2 years?It usually takes a bit longer than that!I think you should be fair to yourself & get out asap.The respect has gone,it's down-hill all the way.
2006-08-17 08:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and speak with her.Ask her what she wants and where she is headed.Take her to a place she usually enjoys so that she will be relaxed and open.Then decide what you are going to do from her response.It's usually hard to force someone who doesn't want to stay but it just might well be that you are doing something wrong now.Try what you can,she might end up falling in love with you and if not....Que sera sera
2006-08-17 08:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by delaw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but if you're sure that is the only thing she wants, I'm afraid your marriage is in critical edge. You need to speak with her , really hart to hart , and ask for her honest real interest on you whether she want to carry on , but she needs to appreciate you and reciprocally respond to your affection. If she clearly says it's not you she wants, so I must say you have to end it.
2006-08-17 08:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋