Deal with Family Fights?

Question

Basically, mum n dad fight non stop, my sister and mum fight and my sister and dad fight.
my brother sometimes has a go at my sis, but hes in yr 5 and shes in yr 12 my bro also fights with mum whenever i get in i fight i never argue back, i just take it till its over...what can i do?

Answer 1

it sounds like your Mom & Dad either are not
happy being w/ eachother or they have bad
communication skills & everyone else is learning
these bad skills fr. your parents
why not ask your parents why they fight SO much
remind them to stick to the point when they have a
dissagreement & to compromise w/ eachother
they may want to try some counseling for their
problem Good luck

Answer 2

Sounds like my house when I was a kid. Alcohol was a major factor in my case and my answer was to be gone as much as possible and that led to running with the wrong crowd and a whole new set of problems for myself.
Now I'm 49 and often wonder what could have been done differently. There are lots of support groups for every type of problem. Usually, the whole family may not be willing to seek help but that shouldn't stop you from seeking help, as you already are. Talk to a school counselor or any other trusted adult. Maybe a youth group at a church. Something that would not draw alot of attention from your parents yet give you an outlet in a positive direction. Stay focused on your school work and do not be drawn into groups of friends who drink, smoke or do drugs. That will definitely mess you up for life.
Again, seek out a responsible professional at school or church and if alcohol is a factor, then Alateen is where you need to be. Good Luck!

Answer 3

This is a very difficult situation I speak from personnel experience. I admire your acknowledgment that you need help dealing with all the fighting. If you have a school counselor go to them and let them know you need to talk about a problem. Do you have a teacher that you especially trust they are also someone that is good to speak to. I hope that you find the help you are seeking...

Answer 4

families will fight sometimes. I think you are right to say nothing. I myself will never stand for an argument. If my kids do that to me, I just walk away and tell them that I'll talk to them when they are ready to TALK and not yell. Usually it's all over something stupid anyway and gets forgotten, but if it is important, we will talk about it when things calm down. My kids are now in their late teens/early 20's and they know that I won't argue, so it rarely happens anymore. Maybe your mom should try this approach. It might not be for everybody, but it works for me.

Answer 5

Contact the Department of Children's Services and tell them what is going on and request counseling for your family. They will help out without people getting in trouble for fighting.

Answer 6

i really feel bad about your situation. your family members are very unhappy and you can not make them change.
all you can do is make sure you don't become 'one of them'
focus on your education and let your experiences at home remind you why you should work hard in school: you want to leave home as soon as you are independent. if you're not too intellectual then learn a good skill at school that will allow you to become independent. computers are always a good start.
hang in there and good luck.

Answer 7

when they start fighting, try to comm things down i u couldnt then step away , thats better than making things worse
if it was your fight, egnore what the other sidee is telling u and sing a song in ur mind, that way the fight well stop fast

Answer 8

stay that way..
and try to influence other in your family too so that they act in the same way you do...
cuz when there is someone fighting, they want a listener whom they can express themselves to... and not someone to argue with..

arguments lead to altercation... and things go bad to worse...
while listening leads to speaker's relaxation and leads to harmony..

best of luck