My lover (he is a man now) would like to become a woman. I am not sure if I feel morally comfortable with this. I started dating a man, and I am a man. So we share a special bond that not many understand. Now Gabe wants to become a woman. We have talked about it, but I have a hard time accepting it. Is it wrong for a person to do this, and expect the other to still love them the same?
2006-08-17 00:44:53 · 6 answers · asked by Joe Bob Charlie, Joe Bob Chopper 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i think morality comes later...first of all check if the surgery is safe enough....if your partner desires so...thats his/her wish
now most importantly it is morally wrong to marry a person whom you dont love....you cant be sure of the other person...for all good reasons. so if you really love someone ...want to spend your life with that person...just go ahead....sex is only a part of it...the main thing is how you feel being together
2006-08-17 03:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by sumits1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not necessarily wrong for him to want this and to want you to love him still. Just as its not wrong for you to be questioning it. Its a tough thing to go through for the both of you. There are a lot of things to think about and consider.
I dont think though, that it is a question of morals. As some others have said, morals boil down to what you believe in, and what you are comfortable with.
You do share a bond, whether others understand that or not. But do you love Gabe because he is a man, or do you love him for who he is. Cus thats not going to change when he becomes a woman. Itll still be the same person that you have that bond with. The other stuff doesnt matter.
2006-08-17 09:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by L H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should get married for love, but if your lover is having a sex change then they are not ready to give their true selves to you. If you would have fallen in love with Gabe as Gabriel then it would be okay to marry. Wait for a year and if you can't live without the person then marry her.
2006-08-17 02:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you two, its what about you want, Is it morally wrong to YOU?
I think that its up to the person, if your fine with it... its your buisness....
You choose....
You can ask for an opioun, but remember its up to you,
2006-08-17 01:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels wrong or uncomfortable than don't do it. If you love him no matter what and you feel you can still love him as a women than it's not wrong. You should think about it and see how you feel.
2006-08-17 00:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're having a homosexual relationship then you shouldn't feel immoral about marrying a transsexual. Please don't take this as an insult cuz it's not.
2006-08-17 01:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by Au Naturelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋