Hi people,
Just out of nowhere my boyfriend told me that he didn't want to be my boyfriend anymore that he felt like he was missing other things in life but he really wanted to be friends. (don't worry I'm sure theres no other girl) We have been in a relationship for 2.5 years so maybe he got scared because of the seriousness of it. (We really are good friends, very good friends) After he told me this and we cryed our eyes out together in his apartment I asked if I could stay the night cause I looked awfull because of all the crying and I didn't want to go home like that. While I was staying there it we hugged, kissed like old times with love. So I got confused. And now a few days later we are separated, but we are going to try to stay as friends. Because we both don't want to loose each other. But as you can guess I want him back as my boyfriend. Is he only scared or is this really the end HELP!!!
2006-08-17 00:36:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not really about marriage we never talked about things like that and we are only 21-22. It' not a marriage thing. I got confused because like I said he keeps running after me even that he wanted to be "friends"
2006-08-17 00:51:01 · update #1
It sounds like he is scared of commitment. You might want to move on to marriage and he doesn't sound ready for commitment.
Let him go, don't keep him as a friend... Let him go completely. If he wants you back he will make the move.
Go out and dance and have fun. Enjoy life and be free.
2006-08-17 00:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by jaelyn1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation with my recent ex. We went out for 2.5 years. I ended it with him. We spent the last 6 months "on and off" which was a nightmare as it only makes things more complicated and issues re: trust and other emotions get way too tangled and messy. You could find yourself having the infamous "sex with the ex" scenario - which is great, but if you want him back, be prepared for the worst. Just practice self-preservation is all!
I wanted one of my other ex's back when he ended it with me (thought I couldn't live without him). BIG BIG mistake! I learnt the very hard way. If it's over, he's ended it for a reason. NEVER EVER look back, always move forward. Inevitably it will only add salt to an already bad wound!
Go have a good ol' girlie nite out and celebrate being a singleton. It's not that bad, and he is only one in a gazillion. Things always happen for a reason, normally for good reason, even if it isn't always crystal clear immediately. His loss I say! xx
2006-08-17 00:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say just what is going on with him - I'm thinking that there are other things that you possibly don't know about. However, why would you want to get back with a man who can't be secure and stable? After 2 1/2 years, he wants his mates?
I advise that you get over him and this situation as quickly as possible. You sound like a really caring person who needs another person of the same caliber. Please don't waste your life in pain and turmoil.
Love and joy
Beth
2006-08-17 00:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say now, u have to give it some time to ride out and see how things go. if he doesnt ask to get back together in a couple weeks then u know its the real thing. this same thing happenened to me. my boyfriend broke up with me jus randomly. i just knew he wasnt serious and i wanted him back also. but after days turned into weeks and weeks turned into months, i knew it was the real end and i jus had to except that. good luck
2006-08-17 00:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad you still have a friend they are precious!!! it sounds like he needs some space and that not a bad thing. it will give you both some time to get to know other people and discover other interests if it is meant to be you two will reunite but for now i know it hurts alot try to discover some new interests hobbies things you've put off doing that will help keep your mind off of things
2006-08-24 20:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but i think a man's perspective is probably the best one here. If he told you that he feels like he is missing out on other things he is basically saying " i want to date other people."
2006-08-17 00:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Scott F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space, he might just as you said scared of loosing a friend. dont push him, and dont rush things. as long as u guys dont dislike each other u still have a chance.
2006-08-22 19:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this spell: light a candle by his picture; slowly draw circles around it in the air as you recite this three times slowly:
Love and longing, love and longing,
Draw this boy to my heart,
Home and hearth, home and hearth,
From me never to depart.
Then close your eyes, say his name softly, and smile.
2006-08-17 00:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when it is over, IT IS OVER
communicate, why learn this must have part at the end
learn to listen to "his needs", "her needs"
time will tell, leave be for awhile, let things settle down
2006-08-17 00:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by timestamps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him to sort out his head... maybe a little way down the line he'll be back, but don't try to force it...
2006-08-17 00:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋