i don' really believe in this sht and think it's just a myth but really wanna know what iz exactly "love".. so what do you think
2006-08-17 00:24:21 · 28 answers · asked by RedDevil♡ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its butterflies in stomach when you think about that person, its going red when talking to them on the phone, its wanting to spend every minute of every day together,
2006-08-17 00:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stage 1: LUST
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".
Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.
In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role:
Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine
Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing
Serotonin - One of love's most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane
Stage 3: ATTACHMENT
This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!
Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments:
Oxytocin - This is released by the hypothalamus gland during child birth and also helps the breast express milk. It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes
Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is an important controller of the kidney and its role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole...
I'm a young psychologist, so i believe this stuff, but it really doesnt matter anyway. The thing about love and any other emotion is that yes, it can all be explained by biology, but you dont neccisarily need to know that. When you feel butterflys, you wont (and i dont) care about those chemical reactions taking place.
Love is when you are not happy unless your lover is happy. Imagining life without this person does not seem right somehow, because the laws of biology and psychology have joined you together, as if you were the same person almost.
That last stage kicks in after about 3 1/2 to 4 years, its all to do with keeping people together long enough to pro create. Animals are limited in this respect, as they are govererned usually entirly by these chemical reactions. But as humans, you can do with your hormones and feelings what you will, so dont bloody waste it when it comes along!
2006-08-17 08:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Drean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like being smacked in the face with a hammer ..
Your heart beats faster when the person is in the room .. they totally capture your attention and nothing in the world seems the same when they are not with you.
They are your best friend, someone you can rely on totally and feel comfortable around and able to say anything to.
You cant imagine the rest of your life without them and you want to share your experiences with them and grow together.
Sound unbelievable? Maybe .. but then you dont know my lady :D
2006-08-17 08:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life Of Vunerable Exticy.
2006-08-17 07:45:08 · answer #4 · answered by Eugwhite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love with my boyfriend because he was everything I wanted a man to be, sensitivie, strong, independent and loyal. I have recently managed to seriously screw this relationship up and have now lost the love that he had for me. It is his fault as well as mine. But I know that I love him because everytime I saw him I would get butterflies and my heart would race. Also the way he looked at me, I just would know how he was feeling.
Sadly, though I have now lost him :-((
2006-08-17 08:43:28 · answer #5 · answered by jmhale2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful
2006-08-17 07:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no-one can actually answer that until it happens to them...its such a hard thing to explain,so many different emotions rolled into one...but believe me when it happens to you you`ll know about it,also it all depends if love hits you full in the face or gradually over a period of time
2006-08-17 08:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is basically caring for someone else enough that you would do anything for them & vice versa.....Lust is the sex you have when you first meet...Love is what the relationship builds into, you know all there is about each other and trust that person more than anybody else...
2006-08-17 07:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is just a term that people use, where two people can communicate and understand each other with trust and loyalty. That is love, just a term that is being used.
2006-08-17 07:29:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we had this discussion at work one night. some of the answers were random, 1 being wen u can fart in front of your partner (!!) its different for everybody but i think love is wen u are so completely at ease with that other person, you can say anythin to them and not feel stupid or afraid, you want to spend every minute with them and wen you're apart it you miss them... its a great feelin and one day i hoe you find it.
2006-08-17 07:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Caz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it happens, you'll know about it!
You wake up and your 1st thoughts are of your love,
You go to sleep and its the last thought in you head.
You constantly think about this person
You are obsessed with them
You want to be with them
You are happy with them
etc, etc.
2006-08-17 07:29:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋