My ex-boyfriend who is tha father of my child as well, left me when I was 3 months pregnant, he never called or anything even though we were staying in the same town. He suggested that I abort which I refused to top it all now after he called me several time wanting to see his son, I found out that while we were still dating he impragnant another women, her child and mine are born same year. Now his girlfriend is dead he want to have a relationship with us, saying he is doing this for in the interst of the child . I want to tell him to get lost but again I feel it will be unfair for the child and regarding the relationship between us I have moved on, I'm now doing internet dating and I'm happy.
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2006-08-17 00:08:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is a tough one!!! You do not need a relationship with this man, he did not treat you like you deserve to be treated!!! Most of the time I would say that the child deserves their father though, but in this case he wanted you to abort that baby!! He already has proven that he has no desire to be good dad, or he would have been there from the start. But if you think that he will be a good dad, then let him have a relationship with your child, but if there si any doubt, DON'T. As far as you go, tell him that you are happy with your life the way it is and that you are not going to put yourself through the hurt of HIM anymore. Girl you deserve a man to love you and treat you like a QUEEN......... Good Luck
2006-08-17 00:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by {Lisa} 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His intentions is definitely not for the child. So let him know plain and clear that you are not taking his sorry *** back. If your happy what do you want to do with him? He will just make your life miserable. As he is looking for something to fill up that empty space that his dead girlfriend left. So kick his *** to the kerb girlfriend. Your happiness comes firs. Best of luck amigo
2006-08-17 07:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rock Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt give the loser the time for day as far as YOU. BUT, if he wants to establish a relationship with his child, I would give him the opportunity to do so BUT he would NOT get but one chance to mess up with the relationship with the child. Do not get involved with anyone for the sake of a child..its a bullsh*t reason to make yourself miserable. Good luck
2006-08-17 08:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him this story you've told us. Let him realize his deeds. Watch his reaction. If he doesn't show any sympathy on his face, you better keep a distance. If he does, tell him he can help with the child, see the kid when necessary.
2006-08-17 07:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did this guy ever man handle u when u dated?how did he make u feel when u were together?if u cherish those times u were together & u were happy maybe u should give him a chance.if u believe in GOD kneel down & pray for an answer because he can give u the best answer
2006-08-17 07:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by ur wish is my command 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need legal help here. Unsure if you qualify for a restraining order, but you probably should be geting child support also...
2006-08-17 07:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a father to your child, tell him to stick it where the sun don't shine and where's your child support payments?
2006-08-17 07:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him and do not look back , move forward . However if he wants to see his son let him provided that you forget him totally as a man.
2006-08-17 07:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get lost.
But unfortuanatly you cannot keep his son away from him unless you get a court interdict.
2006-08-17 07:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ice Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you now like the same sex and to move on
2006-08-17 07:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by terrie l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋