my first boyfriend and i just broke last january until now august i cant move on... what will i do?? giv me some ways to move on please.. were boyfriend and girlfriend fr almost 5years... we broke up because of third party... now he is coming back with me do you think i'l still ccept him?? help!!!
2006-08-16 23:21:54 · 22 answers · asked by jolly... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can you forgive your ex? A relationship is really all about forgiving and taking. If he means what he says, and is going to be faithful in your walk with you, please accept him. Your relationship from today onwards will blossom well much then before! However, if you are afraid that he will cheat on you again, then do what's best for you. Have wisdom girl!:)
2006-08-16 23:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mavarick H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..if u wanna accept him..accept him just as a friend
but what u have 2 do is 2 move on
i know its difficult cause i have been through it...but i had 2 move on...cause its not the end of the world
i know u will always remember him....u will remember the nice moments u were 2gether but honey after sweet dreams dont ever 4get that he had done somethin bad 4 u
ur relationship is long relationship...and some people say long relationships never work
what u have 2 do is:
1)always remember the good times u had it with him
2) never set alone or be alone cause that will makes u remember the problem again and makes u feel bad
3) talk ....talkin in this situation will help alot...talk 2 ur mom or ur best friends
4) if u need some advices ask ur mom...moms r our best friends... cause they have more experience than us...or ask ur best friend
5) u have 2 understand that its not the end of the world and ur not alone...that happened 2 alot of girls
6) have a break...take a rest...relax and try 2 4get ur problems by goin shoppin with ur friends or by goin 2 the movies
7) make more social relationships with guys...that will make u feel better
8) always tell ur self that ur a good girl and always good girls deserve the best...so dont worry maybe god will send u a better person than that...u just have 2 be patient
9) in case he wanted u back...never go 2 him again...accept him as just a friend and say 2 him i moved on in my relationship but that doesnt mean we hate each other...no...we can stay friends not bf&gf
so in the end....honey always remember troubles dont damage us and crush us....troubles make us stronger...have more patient...and wiser...and im sure ur a great girl and u know that...and u know good girls deserve and always get the best
2006-08-17 06:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by yasmeen q* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... i took me more than a half of year to get over my first relationship that lasted only 2 weeks... i can't begin to imagine how much pain and suffering you are going through... even though the situations are quite different, we also broke up because of another person (actually, i dumped him)... i did feel sorry, i did regret it, and if he would have came back to me in that period of time i would have accepted him, because i was emotionally disturbed... but now i have moved on and it has been quite a while and i am so glad that we didn't get back together because i could have never trusted him again, and i think trust is something very important in a strong relationship... it will be extremely difficult in the beginning, but "time heals all wounds" and you should most definitely try to move on... try to find a hobby, find someone close to talk to and think less about him...
2006-08-17 06:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Eliana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First... how old are you? That makes a difference.
Second... It's silly to let a THIRD PARTY dictate your happiness.
Third, "Firsts" are always special.... A first ANYTHING is different, not necessarily better. You'll always consider special, your first kiss, the first time you held hands... etc... so... since you said this was your FIRST boyfriend... perhaps it's the specialness you're having trouble with. You will never have a SECOND first. You know?
Forth... you've not mentioned how HE feels. Does he want back in?
Fifth... when you're ready... you can and will move on.
I hope these 5 things help.
2006-08-17 06:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to move on then you should MOVE ON. Do it now and do not contemplate on accepting your ex back. The way that I see it, he does not deserve you.. and you deserve someone better who will love and respect you as you are. The fact that he cheated on you once and you allowed him to get away with it, chances are he will do it again once you accept him back.
How to move on? Well its simple.. decide that you would like to move on and stand up. Do things that will keep you and you mind busy. As much as possible do not have any communication with your ex and avoid the places where you used to frequent for a while. Engage in worthwhile activities (enroll in a personality development course or in an art school, etc).. meditate... meet new friends.. spend time with family... get away for a while... and pick up yourself. In no time, you will realize that you've gotten over him... and you would even thank him for making you a better person.
2006-08-17 06:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a long time to invest in someone. No one on here knows your heart better than you do. If he broke up with you for another woman, what makes you think he wont do it again?????? You say you want to move on yet want us to give you ideas of whether you should let him back into your life. I know you are confused, hurt and just plain don't know what to do. But since no one can walk in your shoes all we can do is be an outsider looking in. This time instead of using your heart, use your brain. Don't get hurt again, good luck.
2006-08-17 06:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to move on after being with someone for so long. But he did the wrong thing by you and cheated on you...and that has NOTHING to do with you as person. For me I couldn't get past the cheating, probably because I'm such a hard ****...but if you can (that makes you a better person than I) Give it another shot, but take it slowly...really slow...making him prove to you that he is worthy of you, but I caution you in this, once a cheater, usually ALWAYS a cheater.
Good Luck
2006-08-17 06:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough decision to make.
Ask yourself, do you still love him? Looks like you still do. Do you think you can ever trust him again? This is the tough one. If you think he can still earn your trust back, why not?
Do whatever makes you happy. If you're miserable without him, then be with him. But if you're more miserable with him, then turn him down and try to move on.
Best healer is rebound relationship. Just tell the willing and unfortunate guy what the relationship really is.
2006-08-17 06:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there. It takes time to heal our heart. Keep urself occupied. tats all i can tell you. nothing else can help. Stay close with ur friends and family. about the third party. it depends who start it first. if it was him then dont look back dear. I know how it hurts. if u really love him then u should let him go. Ask urself wat u want. sit and talk to him. if u really love him and u feel that he do deserve a second chance go ahead. everybody deserve a second chance. watmore first love. good luck
2006-08-17 06:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by frozen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF u think he is the best thing for u,dnt let a thing like pride get in ur way,but then again he may not be the one ,if not,move on girl,focus on the lord jesus christ,bcos he's the only one who cld really heal u totally
2006-08-17 06:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by avril m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋