2006-08-16 23:21:27 · 17 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Basically havent looked at photos since the person passed away.
2006-08-16 23:22:04 · update #1
Thanks for the answers.Much appreciated. :-)
2006-08-16 23:29:57 · update #2
I would most defintily say your in denial. Loosing a loved one is one of the most difficult things we have to go through in life. I would suggest talking to someone, you obviously cant face what happend and deal with it...or you'd be looking at pictures. There are so many different types of help avaible. Start small, with a family member or friend. You are defintly not alone, and im sure your loved on is in a much better place, looking down upon you. You have to get it off your chest so you can begin to heal. I'm sorry to hear that you've lost someone so special and i wish you Good luck. God bless!
2006-08-16 23:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain of losing someone you care a lot about is a pain like no other. Looking at pictures is just a reminder of not having that person with you. That's where memories come in. Nobody and nothing can take away memories. So I would say no, it's not denial. It just hurts too much to look at them. It's been 21 yrs since my grandmother passed away and it still hurts to this day. So I can relate to your pain.
Hope this helped.
2006-08-16 23:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by blueyedangel71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your loss.
I loved my wife more than anything in the whole world. She died 10 years ago when I was 28 years old, and I still cannot bring myself to look at photos of her to this day because it still upsets me.
If looking at photos of this person makes you cry and causes the hurt to increase then no it is not denial. It is the fact that you still love this person which there is nothing wrong with.
The only advice I can give you is to not listen to people who haven't been there, because they haven't got a clue what they are talking about. Also in time it will get a bit easier, you will not get over it, but it will get easier.
If you want to drop me a line then my email address is mathsman1968@yahoo.co.uk. I may not be able to help but I am willing to listen.
2006-08-16 23:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial is really one of the trickiest defense mechanisms known to man. Why? There are different forms of denial, including your situation. There are also different ways with how to deal with it. Denial is your instincts telling you not to open an old wound, but believe me, it may be a closed wound so it still isn't healed. Each person is unique, with different wave lengths. So take your time to deal with this. There is no time limit and you will know when the time is right.
2006-08-17 01:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by psyche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think the image is too painful, but it would be a good healing step to start looking. Just because you are unable to outwardly show that you are still busy dealing with it, doesn't mean to say you aren't busy in your own way inside. I know I don't like talking about Ryan's death but I have come to grips with the fact that not a day goes by without me thinking of him in some way or remembering a memory. I don't think you are in denial, but I do urge you to make steps towards overcoming this barrier. In that respect 5 years is a long time, but we all heal differently.
2006-08-16 23:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by misfit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to say that its denial. its not like you cant believe that the person is gone, but its just that memories you hold are the only thing that cannot change and it hurts to erlive them because you realise that its all in the past now. it takes time to adjust, less for others, but more for others..i havent looked at the pictures of my uncle or the letters i used to write him when i was a kid because it hurts too much..i dont think im being denial about anything
2006-08-16 23:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I'd say that is how you are dealing with the pain of their loss...you will look at the photos some day and then you will be able to wear one if you feel like it...sometimes the healing process takes a longggggggggggg time, and we each mourn differently...I came to the conclusion that when my dad died, I didn't want to laugh, didn't want to go to his grave site, which i didn't do for ten years..terrible huh?...but, I got a photograph of him, and put it on my desk..and went to his grave finally..it still made me cry...and I talked to him, even though i knew he wasnt there..He is always in my heart, and it was good that I went..you will come to terms when you do...you are not in denial, you just cant look for now..but you will..and it will be healing for you. God Bless
2006-08-16 23:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a denial of a sort but not in a nasty way - I would say that memories are more precious than any visual guide, true they both go together but a visual picture of your lost love alive would conflict with your recovery in the mind. I hope that makes sense!
2006-08-16 23:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say its a form of denial, maybe you don't feel you can look without breaking down.
Please don't worry about it, you will be able to look, when you are ready. In the meantime, cherish the memories.......
2006-08-16 23:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by maggie rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a healthy form of denial as you may still not be ready to see pictures. Perfectly understandable.
Take your time,there is no rush.
2006-08-16 23:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rob G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋