Please explain as I don't understand the need. I used to know many transvestites and just accepted them, although I didn't understand. I hate all the make-up and uncomfortable clothes and don't understand why anyone would want to do that willingly. It is my hormones and body that make me a woman with the emotions and feelings that go with it. What makes a man want to be a woman?
2006-08-16 22:27:11 · 11 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Because they're more comfortable than dresses, silly!
2006-08-16 22:34:20 · update #1
I accept that I don't understand. I am actually looking for knowledge. I am not condemning in any way, nor am I immature. I am not judging you, please don't judge me. I have known many cross-dressers, but not very well. I did not ask because I did not wish to offend and I still don't. I simply don't understand. I accept all people as they are but I feel that I could appreciate them more if I understood what makes them tick.
2006-08-16 23:04:32 · update #2
I used to know a lad who obviously was a transvestite. I was young, just accepted it. He tried to throw himself in front of a train. He was saved, died soon after in a car accident. I struggled to come to terms with a compulsion that makes you so miserable that you can't control it. OK? We shared lipsticks, but I couldn't help him because I didn't know how.
2006-08-17 08:43:43 · update #3
It is a question that each crossdresser would have to anser for themselves and it depends on how exactly you define crossdress.
In my opinion a cross dresser is some one who dresses occasionally .
A transvestite dresses all the time.
A transexual is one is has changed gender.
Cross dresser and transvestite may or may not wish to change sex and may or may not be homosexual.
I classify myself as a crossdresser who is quite happy being male though I am bisexual in my sexual tastes.
I cross dress purely for sexual reasons as I find it very arousing. I generally do not engage in homsexual acts unless I am cross dressed.
I am not passable and realise that.
2006-08-17 01:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by bobbi b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid it's difficult to explain or understand. Unless a cross-dresser comes across your question (and would be open-minded enough to explain without taking offence), we can only guess.
At some stage of my life, I really wanted to be a man (for obvoius reasons - they appear to be socially adjusted and strong). Not like I considered a gender change, but I acted like a boy, hang out with boys and so on. I liked wearing boy's clothes. I guess if I took that fantasy one step futher I'd become a cross-dresser, i.e. I'd pretend with my clothes that I'm actually a boy. I think the society has a bit of double standards here - it's OK for a lady to wear men's clothes if she can do it with taste, but it is totally not OK for a man to wear ladie's clothes in any shape or form.
It is not impossible that some men feel the urge to be pretty. Think about it - all they get to wear is simple cuts, solid colors.
Maybe they protest something by doing this?
2006-08-17 05:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are angry that they can't wear pink and sparkly and make-up.
Men who cross dress don't necessarily want to be women. Some just want to wear the clothes that don't interest you. We are all different, clothes are a cultural thing, not primary sexual characteristics.
Some men do want to be/feel they are women. They also might cross dress because they want to appear as women as well as feel like them. They can get the hormones medically if they want.
Some men cross dress in the same way as some women dress up: because it is fun for them. Sometimes it is because they think it is funny.
There are a whole load of different reasons for men cross-dressing.
PS I don't think it is a comfort issue, but I don't agree that trousers are more comfortable. Depends on the circumstances. I know a man who used to be a charcoal burner in SA. He ripped out the crutch of his shorts and wore them as a kind of skirt. I don't think he looked very feminine though. But it was good for ventilation.
2006-08-17 05:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by hi_patia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just feel comfortable in womens clothes, some find it a turn on, some feel they need to dress for other reasons.
I run a dressing service for transgendered community - I've met all sorts of people. Most are closet cases, who are extremely misunderstood, sexually frustrated and most are also married and their wives have no idea. I feel I am able to be a shoulder for them, to be open with and not feel judged. I feel like a psychologist most of the time.
The majority cannot pass as femme, but there are some who look good.
2006-08-17 05:36:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some just feel more comfortable dressed that way. Many feel that they were born in the wrong body.
Although it as yet cannot be tested on living subjects but only during autopsy, there have been several cases found of transgendered folks who's brain was actually not quite that of the gender they were born, but rather the one they became. (Certain parts are different between male and female.)
Beyond that, I can't say I fully understand it either, and perhaps someone who feels right in the skin they were born in never can.
2006-08-17 05:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in a country where such people are socialy acceptable, but they are not so much cross dressers as men born feeling like girls. 5 year old kids here think like that, and parents do nothing but accept it, "It's normal," they say. Why on earth do you have a problem with it? you must be young, very young, and not to experienced in the world. Live and let live, that's my philosophy. You will appear a lot more mature if you addoped the same ethos. Some people are not like you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-17 05:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know, because to be a woman, you must want to have periods and the pain of child birth and being raped and making less money, all the stuff that real men don't ever have to experience, and that's NOT FAIR. I do however think it's hilarious when my husband wears my panties on his head while we're folding laundry.lol
2006-08-17 05:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they feel too feminine to be a 'typical man', or have identity issues?
A a straight bloke (with no un-usual dress-sense!) I feel very much the same way as yourself, and really couldn't be @rsed with all of the carry on.
Trackies and t-shirt all the way.
UP THE CASUAL REVOLUTION!
2006-08-17 05:35:02 · answer #8 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men choose to cross dress.and i say let ppl live how they want to live its all freedom of choice
2006-08-17 05:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
confused maybe with there sexuality,iv no idea
2006-08-17 08:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋