How do I do it? I'm almost sure she'll say no but I'll never find out if I don't ask. I've never asked anyone out before! HELP ME PLEASE! I'm desperate, and the worst part is, I'm her friend and I don't wanna damage it. I don't want to destroy our friendship. Please, please help me...
2006-08-16 22:14:25 · 9 answers · asked by Alfie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Let me say as a woman that it is so much better that your allready friends. A woman would be more intrested having a relationship with someone she allready knows and trust. Most womens fears in dating is dating men she doesn't know anything about and he turns out to be a real creep. In allready being friends the biggest hurdle is over. You both propably allready know most every thing about each other. You know her likes and dislikes. You might allready know her family. And if since she first met you she made the effort and took the time to become your friend for a reason. She is allready intrested in you. By becoming your friend you had to have impressed her with something that kept her around. Start off by just being honest. Go out to a nice restaraunt and tell her that your feelings for her are becomeing to want to maybe go to the next level. Explain you'de like to get together on a closer level. And mostly explain that this is not just a sexual attraction, that in starting to begin a relationship you want to make her feel cared for and closer as a couple. About now you should explain to her that if any of this is making her uncomfortable of the idea of moving to the next level that you are not wanting to make her feel that way. Tell her her friendship is so very important to you that you do not want to say or talk about anything to jepordize your friendship. Now here's when you have to listen intently to her. If she's nervous & doesn't say much prompt her with gentle questions that may help feel more comfortable. Her main concern will be if she doesn't want to be more than friends will she be hurting your feelings. After all she cares for you to or you wouldn't be friends. I promise if you don't at least give it a shot you'll live the rest of your life thinking what if. You need to really understand that women are differant than men. They want the friend in a mate first and formost. Someone that makes her laugh, & is there for her when she cries. These advantages you share allready is your godsend. Please try, and don't be nervous. Just think of it as she is a friend until otherwise if otherwise comes. Good luck and go for it!
2006-08-16 22:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Nellers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound strange but it's probably a good thing you are friends b/c then you already can talk to her and are comfortable doing that then ask her out as a friend, then she'll get to know you better on a one-one level then you tell her you really like her and could you take her out on a date sometime. If your scared then prepare yourself first but not too much or what you say could come out sounding like you rehearsed it for weeks. Stay relaxed be confident and it will all fall into place. If she say's no well at least you had the balls to ask and u know how she feels. Good luck! x
2006-08-17 05:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress over it! If you already think she'll say no, the question you're probaby trying to have answered is if you will even have a chance. Don't just ask her out first, that would freak her out. I remember having alot of guys ask me out that I really wondered "Why would they even bother"...I know, I was mean. Thinking back now, if they had just mentioned that they were going to do something cool and they wanted to know if I wanted to come with them, I would've gladly said yes! That would have made me feel like we were going as friends and they would've given me the chance to get to know them on a different level. That might have made me see them in a different light. Try getting tickets to a concert or something live on broadway, something you know she couldnt pass up! Then tell her you knew she would enjoy it and wanted to know if she wanted to go with you. She'll appreciate a good time, just don't get mushy on her. If she doesnt fall for you, you know you tried and you will be better friends.
2006-08-17 05:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Cindie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what she really, really, really likes and make that the date.
She won't say no.
Tell her you want to be more than friends sometime into the date when you're both having fun and enjoying time. Feel that part out though, timing can be everything.
2006-08-17 05:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Silver L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its happend to me well he was in your case actually but anyways he was like a so romantic and stuff like he always took me out got me to start liking him and stuff he was like my bestfriend he new everything about me he was like my diary and he asked me out and I said yes it never even crossed my mind that i would go out with him but i did and till this day we still go out and its been like 9 months so all i can tell you it try doing what my man did it worked for him so its worth a try dont you think?
2006-08-17 05:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy Mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm just b like hey do u wanna go to the movies or something as more than friends
2006-08-17 05:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should try to find out whatever she likes and wat's the perfect way of proposing is to her.
2006-08-17 05:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Preeti D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say " will you go out with me " practice w/ friend.
2006-08-17 05:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by boobooshonee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
act like a baboon and **** on her
2006-08-17 05:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Maddie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋