how do i overcome my shyness?

Question

i really want to overcome my shyness but i have no idea how to....

pls!!give me answers

Answer 1

It is the hardest thing ever. My whole life I was so totally completely shy I didn't have many friends because i was afraid to talk to people. I never learned until years later that people thought I was stuck up so they didn't talk to me. I am so not a snob total opposite actually!
In my case, I had my not in the least bit shy sister show me that who the hell cares if someone doesn't like you. Who cares if you say the wrong thing, and who cares if you make mistake? Everyone gets over it and you move on. I think its personal thing though. I still have a hard time making eye contact with people, but I really just got to a point that I didn't care and i was tired of being kicked aside because people didn't see me.
It is so liberating!
Best of luck. I hope I helped a little bit, at least!

Answer 2

Hello sweet shy one! Pat yourself on the back because you have already taken the first step (on your own I might add) towards overcoming your shyness by reaching out and asking for help! Maybe the best place to start is understanding why you are shy and what is causing it. Perhaps your whole family is shy or you might have had a bad experience that caused you to stay inside yourself. Once you know why and what then you can build a comfortable game plan to change . Without those details it makes it hard to offer you the best options and choices to achieve your goal. With that being said, I can share a few general type choices that you may find helpful. Most of the time (but not all) shyness is just a lack of self esteem or fear of rejection. Do yo fit into one of those categories? If so maybe you could choose to try something like this... Start by practicing on a stranger...that way you have absolutely nothing to lose because you don't ever have to see them again! Because starting points are often the most difficult hurdle to overcome... here are several ways you can choose from to begin...Remember when you believe in yourself so will everyone else! So put a big note to yourself somewhere you look AT OFTEN... saying something like this...I am outgoing and friendly. I make new friends easily...I am good at starting conversations...ect
People inherently enjoy helping others so start a conversation with needing some assistance...Directions...time...info about a place or product. Car dealerships are a good source to practice because salespeople love to talk and not only will you practice your skills you may pick up some skills from the pros...But you don't have to mimick anyone else, you can pick and choose what techniques work best for you.... and above all else just be your own beautiful self with your own neat style! Often it is hard to start conversations but once it is started it just naturally will flow. Life, I believe is just way to short to miss any opportunity that is placed before us, and far too many people get stuck in what I CALL THE NEGATIVITY RUT...Just looking at things from a new perspective is a great spirit lifter and confidence booster. Why are we so quick to point out what's wrong instead of what's right? Keeping that in mind people like positve feedback so perhaps it would be easier for you to notice others good deeds, qualities and characteristics and start a conversation sharing that observation with the deserving individual. Always keep it genuine and don't compliment qualities you really don't see. SHARING GENUINE COMPLIMENTS WITH OTHERS SHOWS AN AUTHENTIC YOU. It not only makes someone else feel appreciated it makes you feel good about you. In a day and age when everybody is too busy to take time to verbalize the little things...those people who do are respected and admired. I sincerely hope you can use some of my options to help you reach your goal. I will keep you in my thoughts sending you positive energy for your mission...Good luck...and by the way what you need is already inside you...you just need to pull it out!

Answer 3

Look for the most crowded place in your area, and spend at least 3 days a week in that place during the peak period.

Once you get comfortable, you will start wanting to maybe reach out and speak to someone about the place or anything on your mind. If the first person isn't able to speak with you, try the next, then the next... eventually you will have a conversation with an absolute stranger in a crowded place.

You won't be able to call yourself shy anymore.

Answer 4

You must realize that you are a human amongst humans and there is no need to be intimidated by those that experience the same things you do. Out loud, say the names of the emotions that you feel (eg) sadness, fear, embarassment, shame, happiness, etc... Every human has felt those same emotions! Look other humans right in the eyes when you communicate with them. Also when you look good, you feel good to be in front of others! So whatever makes you look and therefore feel beautiful or handsome, capitalize on it. All the world is a stage, so when you're on, you have to be on. When you realize that you are on the same platform with everyone else, you'll feel more confident.

Sincerely,

No longer shy.

Answer 5

If you are shy and feel intimidated to make the first move to talk to people, the simplest way is offer a smile! Whether you are with your friends or meeting other people.... a smile on the face is always inviting and you may not have to make a first move. They'll approach you and start the conversation instead. :)

Answer 6

The best way to learn how to ride a bike is just to do it. You know your ging to screw yup and fall, but its' part of the proces.

I took this philisophy to heart and joined the Speech team to get over my shyness. I was the least talkative person on my team, but I got over it.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

best way is to join public speaking organizations, like Toastmasters or just begin talking to people, here is a little secret for you most people are shy all you have to is make the first move and don't worry about what other people think, remember they are to busy worrying about themselves and what other people think off them than to worry about you

So make the first move and Good Luck you will be fantastic

Answer 9

Have you considered a pizza slice costume? They will come to you. Who doesn't like Pizza? I know I do. And I would definitely talk to someone dressed like a slice of pie. Pepperoni.

Answer 10

oh man, EASY ! Compliment someone's attire, tell them that they have very good taste, It's like starting up a chainsaw, once you get them going about themselves, it's hard to shut down, people LOVE to talk about themselves, you just sit there blinking like you're interested, u don't even have to say anything, just let them go....