Went to my work colleagues leaving do last night, got quite drunk and texted my bf to come round, we had agreed earlier on in the day that he would watch the footy etc and we would see each other another night. Being a silly drunken idiot I basically had a go at him and he told me to F**k off and hung up on me. I then had to get a taxi him and he didn't call me back, so I ended up calling him and he said that he couldn't put up with me anymore (he had been smoking dope and always gets aggressive) I put it down to that, but I think he really meant it, and now I know that I have lost him for good. I don't want to get in contact with him as I am scared of what he will say. Sorry for the long story but I just had to get this out of my head. Feel like absolute sh*t.
He has done this once before but we have talked things through, I know I was an idiot and I did apologise to him, but it hasn't made any difference. I can't believe I said the things I did and I really wish I hadn't.
2006-08-16 21:00:15 · 21 answers · asked by jmhale2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You drink. He does drugs and is violent. And you think one phone call is all that was wrong with your relationship?
2006-08-16 21:05:27 · answer #1 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Apologies for going against your wishes jmhale2005. I'm a guy, but sometimes it helps to get a different perspective.
From what you say, neither of you were in full control of your emotions that night. That doesn't, however, mean that either of you should be putting up with sh*t from the other.
It may be, as others have pointed out that your boyfriend isn't willing to put up with sh*t from you any longer. Of course, this doesn't mean that you have to put up with his sh*t either.
What I would say is that the relaxation that you both found in doing whatever drugs you were doing (alcohol is a drug, after all) indicates that there's something underlying which isn't right about your relationship.
I truly hope that you'll be able to work things out between yourselves. However, if it's decided that it's time to move on with your life, don't dwell on might have been. As you say yourself, "he had been smoking dope and always gets aggressive". It's only one fist/one slap/one kick away from being verbally aggressive to being physically aggressive. You don't deserve that.
2006-08-23 16:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by micksmixxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly next time dont get slaughtered drunk if you know what you end up doing when you're drunk
give him some space and call him when things are cooled off. he may well be thinking along the same terms that he shouldnt have lost temper with you !
talk things through without sounding very desperate. apologise and hey whats with the dope ?? its illegal !
2006-08-16 21:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then let him call you and say 'sorry' , you're allowed to have a 'bad' day too, you know. Just think what you had to put up with when he gets agressive. I wouldnt worry too much about it. When my boyfriend hung up on me, I'd call my him and asked why he'd hung up on me, hehehee but we're all good, I give him s*** all the time, but he loves me for who I am and I love him for who he is. Besides, there is other fish in the sea hunny
2006-08-23 20:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by spunky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie just let some time pass. He should have known you were tipsy and he knows he was buzzin too. But this time let him miss you. Let him come to you. Let him apologize to you. Act like it's no big thing and he'll come around and when you two are on good terms you need to definetly TALK about your issues and problems. Hope this has been helpful.
2006-08-16 21:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i firmly believe that no matter where a guy stands, he should realise two things should never be done....1.hitting 2. swearing
also, if its not working and you are both in the wrong maybe the idea is to sort yourselves out on your own before you try a relationship, you each probably have your own major issues to deal with!
2006-08-16 21:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you can't take something back that has already been said, all you can do is call and say sorry but don't let him make you feel any worse you know you were wrong maybe it just isn't meant to be!
2006-08-16 22:33:19 · answer #7 · answered by SAMANTHA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry 2 much if i was you! youve just got to let things cool down. maybe you could go round to his in a few days and sort things out! and remember if it doesnt work out theres plenty more guys out there! if he ends up splitting up with you over that its stupid and maybe he was just looking for a reason to finish with ya!!! dont worry, everything will work out in the end. if its ment to be then everythin will b ok!
2006-08-16 21:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely neither of you are very commited to each other. It may be time for both of you to examin yourselves very closely and figure out what is important and what is not. Most of all find out who you are. Most people do not know themselves and that is why they need drugs and religion to help them, they think.
2006-08-16 23:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm that's really a toughy... and you've tried discussing it and stuff? maybe he just needs time? you know... it probably wouldn't have ever happened or turned out so badly if you hadn't gotten drunk. you might have freaked him out or something. but theres really no goin back in time ya know? well, i hope things work out alright in the end.
2006-08-16 21:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r admitting u saaid some bad things and u r blaming the dope. maybe he is just tired of the games
2006-08-16 21:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by jesse james 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋