I have an 8 year old son, 6 year old daughter, 4 year old son and a 2 month old son...so there are lots of little boys running around my house. I am not a particularly modest person and from birth I have never gone out of my way to go off in privacy to change clothes, I have never been bothered by the kids busting in the bathroom while I am using it, Often times I have been engaged in a conversation with them while getting ready and gotten in the shower in front of them. Recently a girl friend was shocked that my 8 year old came to ask me a question while I was changing and neither of us so much as bat an eyelash. She says that it is bad that he should see me naked at his age. He has been seeing me for 8 years at this point, what does it matter now? I feel like when it is time to stop he will know. When he is no longer comfortable, he will stop walking in my room with out knocking or coming to talk to me in the bathroom. Soon he will say,"eww mom..close the door" Am I wrong?
2006-08-16 20:27:11 · 13 answers · asked by PrincssSarah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
They are YOUR kids.. and if you and they are comfortable with it I don't see a problem. When they get embarrased.. they'll stop. I am a stay at home mom.. and with 3 boys ( 6, 4 and 1) I have no choice but to have them see me change or go pee.. The 6 year old comes to ask something.. but he doesn't linger or stare.. it's nothing to him besides asking me a question.. and when he's embarrased by seeing Mommy use the bathroom.. he'll wait till I'm out.
2006-08-17 01:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are all kinds of issues and answers here. I think attitude is a large part of whether children are harmed by seeing their parents body. If you are embarrassed or ashamed that can make them feel the same way.
However, there is also the issue of respecting each others privacy. There comes a time when, out of respect of the other person, you just don't barge in on them when they are using the bathroom or changing their clothes. If you don't teach them to respect other peoples rights, who will?
There also should, in my view, be a cut off age when children are not allowed to see you naked anymore. I think your oldest boy is at that age right now. There is always the danger that your child will stop seeing this as just a natural part of life in your home and start seeing it as provocative behavior. In other words he could find himself aroused and not understand why.
Also, do you really want your 14 or 16 year old son to come barging in on you all the time? I can tell you that his wife probably won't like it. Future behavior with others is also something you should consider when you are training your children.
Just make sure that they understand that not everyone likes this kind of behavior and when they are around others, including their sister, they need to respect their privacy.
2006-08-16 20:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to emphasize the issue of privacy between genders at some point. I see your point of view. I have a 5 year old son, and I just quit changing in front of him b/c he's going through a big issue of wanting to go into another room to change clothes. He doesn't want anyone other than me to see his little booty. And he averts his eyes when I'm changing. So, I feel that it's time to stop changing in front of him. I do agree on your point to an extent that usually, yes, they'll give you some signal that it's time. But, not always.
And if your children are very comfortable with you then they may fail to exhibit those particular signs as they get older. It's your job to enforce that. Age 8 is still plenty young enough for you to do that. My personal opinion is to do that at about 6-7 years old.
2006-08-16 20:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of it rather relies upon on the youngster, the kin, the relationship, and the norms you have set up. some households walk around bare and it relatively is not any massive deal. different father and mom i comprehend have on no account (as a results of fact the youngster became into like a million 12 months previous) enable themselves be seen bare with the aid of their opposite intercourse infants. This gadgets up a in addition possibly difficulty whilst it is composed of having the discern see their newborn bare, as quickly as the youngster is sufficiently previous to request that. that's what I did -- sort of waited for cues from my little ones. My husband stopped giving our daughter a tub with the aid of the time she became into approximately 7, stopped seeing her bare at that component as properly. My son is now 12 and its been approximately 2 years when you consider that he stopped freely strolling around bare. i think of it relatively is a rather stable indication from the youngster that they do no longer desire you to be sure them bare. that would desire to easily be respected, at notwithstanding age it occurs. notwithstanding, at some a while little ones will announce or act like they do no longer desire you to be sure them bare and then day after today they'll act like they on no account stated it. do exactly no longer make an argument of it or embarrass the youngster approximately it. enable them to make the rule of thumb and enable them to be versatile approximately imposing it yet, you mustn't insist that they stay with the aid of their own rule. purely enable them to take the lead and be sure which you do hear.
2016-10-02 04:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's more to teach him for modesty sake. He learns such things from parents after all. He won't hesitate to walk in on the opposite sex if he's used to doing it at home. It's best to curtail it and to teach him that knocking is best now that he is getting older.
2006-08-16 20:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by marajjoya 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't let my 3 year old see me because i have two other small guys,21months and 12 months and twin girls on the way and that is my rule when you turn three you sit out side the bathroom while mommy uses it
2006-08-16 20:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by izzydwight 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They're too old once you've taught them the disgustingness of human nakedness.
Tell your friend to get a grip, and take a trip to Europe or something.
2006-08-16 20:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Tuna-San 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I have a 4 year old and when he was three he was telling me about my breasts and I thought since he knew what he was looking at he was too old to see me undressed.
2006-08-16 20:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by TCP 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you are not doing wrong, thy see you and are comfortable with the opposite sex and maby there own body's, my kids saw us nude and to this day it dose not bother them ( thy are grown now ) there was no sex just nudes. if you lived in a nudist camp there thy are all nude, it dos not hurt them to see a nude body
2006-08-16 23:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by bigbubba200314 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children from the age of two don't forget the images... i am surprised at your attitude and behavior... gradually change this pl
2006-08-16 20:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by pali@yahoo.com 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋