my son is 8 and,and doesn't have his father in his life,he is going into grade 3 and thinks babies come from a seed given by the daddy.so is 8 a good age to talk to him,about sex and how babies are concieved or should I wait,I'm not sure if he's ready,but not sure how to tell if he is ready.
2006-08-16 20:13:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I gave my son bits of information from around that age, then gave him the whole talk when he was 13.
2006-08-16 20:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bassilisk 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little info but not the whole "the penis goes into the vagina" thing. He will want to know what the vagina looks like, what a penis is, and too many questions. He won't be able to handle it all, so wait till sex ed class (usually grade 5) to tell him the other details. He's actually on the right track. Say stuff like "the seed, which is also called sperm is made by the daddy and mommy has to make sure it gets inside the egg." Make sure you also say, "Do you want mommy to stop talking about it, cuz we can stop whenever you want" Hope I helped! Good luck!
P.S. Make sure you don't use any words that you think he will tell his friends because he might go up to everybody in his class during recess or whatever, and go like "Do you know how a baby is made? I know!" and if he tells everybody, its not the best thing because the parents might not think the child is mature enough and they certainly don't want their child to get the sex talk from an 8 year old boy, and then they'll say "I thought you said the stork brought the baby" or whatever their parents told them, and then the parents will have to give their kid the sex talk when the parents and the child aren't ready so be careful about your language and tell him that the parents of some kids didn't tell the kid yet and everyone doesn't need to know. It's like a secret.
Hope that helped a little more, good luck, say the right things, take it slowly, and if he's not ready, then he's not ready so you can save the details for later.
2006-08-17 10:06:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-08-17 03:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by DOLL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At eight yrs old, he's definitely ready to hear the story. Don't go into graphic detail about the sex part though; try to be as general and unspecific as possible. If he knows exactly what sex is all about, he might talk about it with kids at school and get in trouble.
Just give him the classic; "When a mommy and daddy love each other very much, they get together and make a baby. Daddy puts sperm (or any word you want to use) inside mommy, and a baby starts growing inside her tummy. After 9 months, the baby is born."
2006-08-17 10:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by q&a_08 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shouldnt matter who is telling him the facts, especially at this age. maybe when he is older (teenege) it would be helpful for him to have some man to man talks with an adult male that he is close to and looks up to. but for now he just needs the basics. i was told when i was 5 (because i asked) then i got more details at 7 and by 9 i knew pretty much everything there is to know. this timeline worked out well for me but boys tend to mature later. you know him best. do you think he is ready? most likely he is and if you dont tell him then he may hear it somewhere else and that doesnt always turn out good. just sit him down and say 'you are getting older now and there are somethings that people learn as they get older. remember that "seed" well, it is called sperm and actully it takes more than just sperm to create a baby. in the woman there is a very tiny egg..." etc etc you know the rest.
good luck
2006-08-17 03:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 8 is an okay age to explain the concept of sex. Maybe not to any detail, but to give him a generic idea. It'd be easier to go at his pace too. Start with an opening statement of "the mom has an egg and the daddy has the seed." Let him simply ask questions and you answer them. So he asks for what he wants to know, and if he begins to be uncomfortable with the topic, he has the freedom to just stop asking questions.
2006-08-17 03:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a lot of public schools, they start the beginning of sex ed. and puberty talks and such in 4th grade. The school will inform you ahead of time. Around then you can decide whether you want to tell him first or not. They don't tell them about sex yet in 4th grade, though. I wouldn't tell him quite yet. Otherwise he'll probably tell his friends at school and other parents will be upset. Knowing a daddy gives a seed is a really good place for him to be at his age.
2006-08-17 20:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by caitlinerika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The tricky part of broaching the subject of sex with one's children is that, often, parents want to provide way too much information. I know this because my own kids have told me!
Parents are well-meaning, of course, as you seem to be, but my experience with my own children is that talking with them about sex should be as basic as their language and thinking skills allow.
Nobody sits a two year old down on a chair to discuss hormonal shifts during ovulation, even if the person talking is absolutely bang on (excuse the pun) correct.
Because your son is already talking about where babies come from, let him ask you questions; let him lead the discussion. The simpler the question, the simpler the answer ought to be. That's really the best (if not only) way to broach the whole subject. Since he has told you where he thinks babies come from, ask him to give you more information. Children often understand more than their language skills demonstrate.
Finally, young children can't hang onto a topic for as long a time as older children/young adults; so, keep it short and to the point. A rule of thumb I followed was to allow three minutes for every year of age for the child. That doesn't mean talking NONSTOP for 24 minutes, but just allowing that much time for any discussion to take place.
PS Don't let your child "learn" about sex from his friends - they don't know any more than he does.
2006-08-18 15:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will know when he is ready. Watch him and try to listen how he talks with his friends. My daughter and her friend were playing and somehow sex came up and I heard them talking about it (she was only 8) I waited for her friend to leave then I asked her what sex was she told me it was when 2 people kiss. I explained to her that sex is when 2 people decide that they want a baby they hug tight and ask god to put a baby in the belly, I will tell her the gory details when Ifeel she is ready. Remember all kids have a different maturity level at different ages. It is our job to raise them and pay attention to their cues. You are doing a great job paying attention to his.
2006-08-17 09:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10/11
2006-08-19 03:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is going into the 5th grade and they will see a movie on puberty. I think if ur son understands why not give him some real info and explain it at his level It's better than him finding out by the kids at school like I had to that really sucks the kids talk about things and u have no idea what they r talking about how embarrasing
2006-08-18 21:57:06 · answer #11 · answered by gurlfriin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋