when should i ask for it back?

Question

when my gf and i broke up,although she took the diamond ring she never actually said she would marry me,now we have broken up she hasnt given it back.its been 3 months,should i ask for it back,or wait for her to return it,is her keeping it mean she doesnt want things to be over? i asked for it once and she said yeah sure and that was it,also i paid for most of her college education,should i ask for her to pay that back,or let it slide?

Answer 1

Mickey, it sounds like she had good intentions in the start of the relationship, but then took advantage of you to no end. You can ask for anything you may have bought and gave her, but chances are she will keep it all. She may come back, if not, you learned alot in that relationship.

Answer 2

When giving a gift, it is a gift. If it is a gift with strings attached, you need to let it be known.

To further explain it, let's say you give a gift of money and the person buys candy with it. It upsets you. Do not give money to that person again unless you attach a string, like saying you will gift money but not for candy...did you give the ring with a string?

I say live and learn. Do not give a ring until you are willing ot devote and she is too. Also know you may never see it again. Spend the big bucks if you need on the wedding ring. Anyway, true love does not need an expensive meaningless diamond, the woman who falls madly and deeply for you will not care, no matter how rich she is. Consider these thoughts.

I can and could always afford a big ring, what I wanted most was a man who could be my soul-mate and I would love no matter what.

Good luck, and willing to wait...it is worth it.

Answer 3

Id let them both slide, unless the ring was your mothers or grandmothers or something like that. Once you give someone something you should not really ask for it back even though you have broken up.Let it slide dude and get on with your life, no point stewing about it , it's only money. She may want ot keep the ring as a memory, something she can show her grandchildren one day, or she may just want to cash in on it, If that's the case well good riddance to her anyways.

Answer 4

When you proposed and she didn't say yes, what did you say? Hold on to the ring until you make a decision.

In the future next time you buy a ring or any gift of value be ready to let it go after a break-up. It's a gift, and a gift is something you would have to fight back in court with a small chance of winning. You can ask her everyday for the ring back if you like, but most likely she'll call the police and say you are harassing her... Good Luck.

Answer 5

let the education slide but get that ring back that chick used you. Sorry. GET THE RING BACK she should not keep it. If she was a decent person she would have already given it back to you.

Answer 6

just let it slide. don't ask for the ring or the college payments just let it all slide and get away from her. trust me if u ask 4 it back then u'll make other people think weird things. besides u bought it 4 her r u gunna give it 2 some1 eles? that's not cool. just let it go. u'll b the pimp 4 doing it!

Answer 7

Ask her to give you the ring back, i mean like now. let the money slide, as they say win some loose some.

Answer 8

lol ask for the ring back let the college education slide, she didn't force you to pay for her education

Answer 9

College money I wouldn`t ask to return, but the ring- it would be polite from her to give it back and you should ask her once again. Oh, material girl!

Answer 10

get the ring back, unless she has hocked it, I hocked my engagement ring, when my ex left me for another woman,
but no you cant really ask for the money back, for the tuition you paid for, it was a gift at the time, unless it was on the promise she is supposed to pay you back