I've been officially dating this guy on and off for 6 months. Once a month he decides we should break up but he changes his mind the next day, calling me and saying that he loves me and all that crap. I tried to talk to him about it but he either refuses or says how he hates that i'm so inexperienced (he's my first bf) cuz he shouldn't have to explain it to me.
He flips out on me when I go out with my friends, telling me that he should be my life and i should have been calling him instead of hanging out. He really hates that i'm friends with a few guys and accuses me of cheating or being in love with them if i even talk to them, but it's fine for him to hang out with girls and even crash at their house. But i'm the one he accuses of being jealous and too insecure.
I tried to break up with him, but he won't let me. He ignores the break up and leaves me messages and calls repeatedly. He said he loved me too much to ever let me go cuz i give his life new meaning
2006-08-16 19:42:25 · 14 answers · asked by american dreamer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump his sorry little *** as soon as you can. There's only enough room for one drama queen in your relationship and you have those rights.
Moreso, the other things you say about his "telling you" this and that are BIG RED FLAGS. I've seen a lot of relationships and this one's one of the clearest.
Find someone else. Find someone who'll treat you like a girlfriend instead of a possession.
As for how, first tell him face to face that you want to move on and see other people. Then, just keep deleting his messages. Also, for 0.75/mo, you can add him to your blocked call list.
Not to scare you, but this has trouble written all over it and if he doesn't leave you alone, could end badly. If after a few weeks, he doesn't find other channels for his "attention" let your parents and/or the cops help you out. (seriously)
Either way, it's time to move on and find a real relationship where you both learn, enjoy, and give meaning to one another. :-)
2006-08-17 08:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next Time You Break Up Ignore His Calls And Delete His Messages.. Dont Listen To Them It Will Only Make Things Harder For You.. Tell Someone U Can Trust(bestfriend/parent) Whats Going On And They Will Help You.. Go Somewhere He Wont Be Able To Find You. Crash At A Family Members Nething.. And If He Keeps Calling You.. Definatly Call The Police And Get A Restraining Order.. He Cant Force You To Stay In A Relationship With You.. Let Him Know Your Not Taking Any Of His Crap.. Hope Things Work Out..! Good-Luck Katie*
2006-08-16 19:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by ♥OnCloudNine9♥ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a real problem with a really live wire on your hands!You need a restraint put against him,which i know he would probably break the order,and i would consider taking him to court for harassment and threats.He is to controlling which can lead to be dangerous.I think if i were you,just for awhile,i would move either back home or with some very close friends,i would not stay alone.Maybe he will move on then.You have the right to end a relationship if you want,however this guy is not dealing with a full deck,so please take heed to this message from me,i don't want nothing to happen to you,and i am not trying to scare you,I'm sorry if i am,i just want you to realize the importance of this situation.He is acting like he is 10feet tall and bullet proof.You can do better,you don't need this in your life at all.He knows you fear him to a point and he therefore knows he has control over you,and this is what you need to break by taking action against him.I will be praying for the protection of the Lord over you in all that you do and i wish you the best and all the luck for you!Don't put off tomorrow on what you can do today okay?
2006-08-16 20:06:59 · answer #3 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first boyfriend and you've only been dating for six months and the situation is this volatile little girl, you need to GET OUT! Do your parents know that these things are going on? They need to, because if he is going to tell you how he wants you to behave ie, where you can go, who you can or cannot hang with, and accuses you of doing things you're not doing...oh honey you're in a bad situation that will only get worse as time goes by. You need to tell you parents because you will probably need their help when you finally put your foot down and end it. DO end it. Is he much older than you. How old are you. You don't have enough experience to deal with this situation on your own. Please, please talk to your parents and listen to what they have to say. I'm sorry to have rambled on like this but I have seen situations like this and they're not pretty and they never get better.
Stop it now before you can't stop it. Pray.
2006-08-16 20:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A restraining order is a last resort, but thank God we live in a society where it's available.
Nevertheless -- take responsibility, sister, for your life. YOU decide whether you want to live with this guy. YOU choose how you will spend the remainder of this year.
YOU choose the words that you will say to him, when you decide to move on.
It's difficult to have sympathy for someone who sees another human as a "jerk", and yet, you're still trapped in this relationship. It's time to embrace life, and value who you are, and fill your own life with meaningful deeds.
Look to the needs of those less fortunate than yourself. Listen to the music of creative souls. Read the words of a loving, Heavenly Father who understands your problem, and is so near to you.
Take care. Guard your life -- it's the only one you have.
2006-08-16 19:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first leave him and get the cops invalved. he is going to end up killing you or someone you love and if hes your first boy friend then you realy need to go i had a girlfriend the same way as he is but i couldn't take it any more the thing is hun if he is saying that your cheating on him most likely hes cheating on you and just saying that to make himself feel better and he dont care about how it makes you feel so plz leave him and if he doesn't want to then i can take care of that for you send him my way and me and all my ladie friends will woop him for you lol to where he wont want to be with a girl for a vary long time
2006-08-16 20:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that you are asking for an answer to this problem as opposed to simply ending the relationship is cause for concern.
The way in which you refer to this young fellow is certainly not the way a young lady in love would refer to her boyfriend.
You know what you have to do. Asking folks here is putting off the inevitable.
Goodluck :)
2006-08-16 19:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by condaleeta rice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont even need to read all u wrote. make it a simple situation. in life, if a woman dont want the relationship, there is nothing a man can do; anything u want sooo badly, there are means to get to the goal.. so go for it and dont blame him .. u r the one to blame...
2006-08-16 19:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him and if he keep refuse the break up go to police or may be one day we will see u in news men like hime are dengurace
2006-08-16 19:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by iraqi_helper2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to stick to a relationship like that this is all up to you. read tips and articles on dating and more on this site
2006-08-16 19:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋