i have comitted a mistake..but was that a mistake.?

Question

i am married and have 2 kids studying in 3 and 4rth. I As i was damn bored and was always having hectic time with kids, I became involved in internet chating. I was having a really very decent chat without any affairs, with 2-3 guys who was talking very homely way. First it was through internet and then continued through phone calls. The talk continued for hours with songs and many interests in common. Then one day, the whole thing broke out to my husband . I tried a lot to convince him that the talks were just a time pass and there were no affairs or vulgur talks, but it was hard for him to beleive. I cannot blame him, as he is very loving and caring, but was a lil. more buzy to bringup his family. Still, without any hasitation, i tell, i had enjoyed those days so much and i still don't feel that i have comitted a big mistake. But when i see my husband's tension i am guilty. they have never tried to contact me, as they know that how much i love my husband. I likd to have a free tk

Answer 1

Forgive and don't forget

Answer 2

You are just wrong! No matter what kind of spin you try to put on it...you are wrong.
You're a mother of two with a husband...you would think that would come first in your list of priorities.
If you love your husband and kids...do the right thing and take a moment...do a deep reality check on yourself.
And admit that you shouldn't have turned to other men to pass the time. Especially phoning them for goodness sakes!
You are very lucky to have a husband that will and has cut you this much slack for doing what you do.
Just turn over a new leaf...and let it all go. There are other things you can do to pass time. Join the school P.T.A. Help out at the kids classroom as a classroom mom or volunteer at the church for a few hours a day.
You will feel a whole lot better about yourself for it.

Answer 3

If it were your husband that was spending so much time talking to others im sure you would feel really hurt, How do you think affairs start silly ???? By spending too much time with the opposite sex. There may not be anything in it , but it's still the wrong thing to do. Spend time doing fun stuff witgh your hubby and kids. Make the time. Remember the fun stuff you usd to do with your hubby when you first met,Make the time, rekindle the reason you 2 got married, You owe it to him to feel special and loved after what you done , so that he gains trust in you again, Spend less time on the internet and do stuff with friends, so that you don't get bored with family life. Or maybe even go to some classes like pottery, or bead jewellery, guitarlessons whatever tickles your fancy. Cheers!It's a good thing those guys havn't contacted you, they probably realise what they have done wrong!!

Answer 4

Talk to your husband instead, or at least try. There might be something you're both interested in that can take the boredom out of day and also try to go out with friends. Having a chat in the internet is alright as long as you don't let it get too far, phone calls are a bit too far for a 'chat'.
Good luck, everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 5

What you did was indeed a grave mistake. Instead of insisting on being innocent, you should tell your husband you are sorry because you have forgotten to consider his feelings.

Put yourself in your husband's shoes...I can imagine him telling himself, "My wife is chatting with other men while I am slogging at work to bring the bacon home! Aren't there other ways to use her free time instead of chatting with other men? What about joining a group of ladies shopping? What about gardening? What about taking up a part time job to help me with the financial burden? I feel so hurt!"

Or perhaps, turn the situation around this time: How would you feel if you find out that your husband has been chatting with a few women behind your back? How would you feel if he keeps denying of having any sexual contact with these women?

Answer 6

Yes, of course you have made a mistake.

Apologize to your husband that this has happened; that you hope you can earn his respect again, and then ask him to remove the computer from your house. When you get bored, go to the library, work in the garden, or visit with a friend or relative or go volunteer at a local hospital, etc.

Make plans to spend time with your husband and your children together so you can begin to put your family life together again. Have friends and family over to visit and keep yourself occupied.

If you didn't tell your husband about the internet chatting from the beginning you knew what you were doing was wrong and disrespectful to him and your marriage. You strayed from your marriage in your imagination.

Answer 7

I think IMing or online chat is okay, but taking the next step and talking on the phone was probably inappropriate. If you started chatting online to kill boredom, why did you talk to these guys on the phone for hours? Why would a man talk to a woman he doesn't know for hours, there has to be a motive. Sounds like you need to turn on the TV if you are that bored....

Answer 8

your mistake was talking to other men. Chatting..fine, PHONE CALLS etc... not cool. If you want friendships, get a best friend. I dont know why women don't do this.

YOU'RE NOT A LESBIAN IF YOU HAVE A BEST FEMALE FRIEND. You can relate more to women than you can men anways. If y ou arent happy with your relationship, even though you claim to love your husband, then get a divorce and move into a house with all those guys you talk to. You husband doesn't deserve that worry. Especially if he didn't do anything.

Answer 9

If your conscience tells you that you made a mistake, then it was a mistake. As much as you love your husband, being idle can make you cheat on him because an idle mind is the devil's workshop. That was a first, and it went as far as phone calls, next time my dear, you'll make contact. My advise is, start doing something to keep your self busy besides chatting and being a house wife and remember, MARRIAGE IS A LIFETIME COMMITMENT.

Answer 10

If I was Married now, I would not ever be chatting with Guys. Why can't you just chat with females? This is most likely, what your Husband is asking himself, ya know? I'm not saying you did anything wrong, but you must admit, he must think you was interested, in someone else, at the time you was chatting.

Answer 11

Can a man (woman ) play with fire and not get burned..why let temptation enter ! My new husband was married for a few months and met someone on line "got cought" and she fired him (divorced)! I found this out after I married him or else I would not have..he also had another one he met online.. he slept with her all the time we were engaged ! I found this out after we were married! if I had known that I would not have married him. Now I dont even trust him ..he tried what you are doing too after we were married and I busted him . I gave him a choice QUIT or get the heck out !
Good Luck !