i was in a long distance relationship for about 7-8 years. we was in love . we always said that when our situations got right, then we would move in together, get married etc. im a good guy. never cheated on her, always helped her,never asked her or anything. always respectful to her and told her i loved her all the time,when we first met. she thought i was gonna leave her. she begged me to stay with her. she cheated on me once. begged me to take her back. i did. she broke up with me a few months ago. tonight she told me that she had been dating off and on for years and was just recently seeing someone and she's 3 months pregnant and she left the guy. she claims that she still loves me and always will. but we was too far apart etc. im pretty devastated. but she talks like when i get myself together to let her know etc. she says that she didnt want to lose my friendship , so she could tell me all of this before. what do ya think...am i a fool for believing in her and our relationship
2006-08-16 19:05:48 · 15 answers · asked by craig h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So sorry to hear about the relationship.
I think there's a saying (if you can handle it), fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
Wow, it does sound like she used you a bit. That totally sucks. As hard as it sounds, I think you need to send her off to grow up some and then maybe you can start again as friends. She's got to earn the right to have your friendship, let alone more, at this point.
From past experience, I'd say it's over though. Unless you like being the security blanket (which some people do). But, you know the situation best!
Hope things get better for you. Things seem to happen for a reason.
2006-08-16 19:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your in a fantasy land. You NEVER had a relationship. All those years you were faithful and she was living her life. Seeing guys, having sex, hell, having relationships. Long distance relationships are a figment of your imagination! How would you ever know what she was doing from one day to the next? Emailing and talking on the phone does not a relationship make!! Get your head out of the clouds, and for Christ's sake, find someone that lives nearby that you can have a REAL physical, I can see you, I can touch you, we do things together, RELATIONSHIP!
2006-08-17 02:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a fool; just naive'. Seven or eight years in a long distance relationship? Surely you must know that you probably have problems committing. How can you expect to fulfill anybody's needs from a distance? Let alone have your own satisfied; unless of course yours is a need to be alone, but not feel lonely. As for this woman, she is not friend material.
2006-08-17 02:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, for one thing, she should have been faithful no matter how far apart you were. Then she should have came clean to you a long time ago. It is wrong to cheat on the person that you were supposed to love. If you love them, then nobody else would even matter to you but that person.. You need to find a new woman that will not cheat on you, and will treat you right
2006-08-17 02:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, keep the 10 pts. You went through it, I would say keep in touch with her and continue being friends. But if you saw each other sometimes, then she really didn't like you if she went out with other guys, but maybe when she has the baby you can help her out. Your the good guy, don't change. You'll get better, good luck!
2006-08-17 02:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the crazy things we do for love... i think she wants to hit 2 birds with same stone. get the man who loves her so much (note: she just realized ur worth) and at the same time have someone help her raise her kid. if u can live with that (being used), yeah ur a fool.
2006-08-17 02:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by aeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Not a fool, just too trusting. Move on.
2006-08-17 02:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you weren't a fool you where just blinded by love.I'm sorry about that though.You deserve better.You a good guy and stay that way.
2006-08-17 02:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Miss.Tubby Bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're such a gullible little person. So easy to toy with. Tell her to get lost before she runs you over with your own car.
2006-08-17 02:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Shifani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEA. sorry.
i think she just needs a dad for the baby now.
if she did love you she wouldnt have done this to you!
there are more fish in the sea.
2006-08-17 02:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋