you are together 9years 2 children together 2 are mine from another marriage and he has 2,?

Question

but he treats me & mine like we are aliens. His kids are perfect and mine are always in the wrong as well as I am. I know that all kids workoff each other I don't want to pick on anyone what would you do?

Answer 1

you really need to let him know how u are feeling then take the necessaru steps. Try him first and see what he thinks,dont let the kids hear u two talk bout this. I know it isnt so easy to leave after 9yrs but the kids are in the package with the mom so if he doesnt except the kids then he doesnt except the mom.Let his perfect kids cook, clean and be the backbone of the family while you find your way out the door. Goodluck!!!

Answer 2

ok start dressing up like aliens
Ask them who they want to be today
and become a director
make your life interesting
not petty because this is what it is all about
So think of things to do to win them
Make sho fly cakes and pies
Play guess what is inside the coffee can
become creative and make the kids enjoy being with you
Do the most unusual things you can find on net
have fun
But like if you are like a dull person
to them and nothing will become of it
your days are numbered
might as well pack or have them pack
something has to happen soon
You must have the mind to win them
So play your game of Chess well

Answer 3

Unfortunately, this is a common problem facing mixed families. I would seek the help of a professional ... Marriage counseling for the parents, famiy counseling for everyone, and individual counseling for each member of the family. One place to seek information is the APA (American Psychological Association)

Answer 4

So you have 6 kids total? If you had 2 kids already when you started, and he treated them badly, it might have been a good sign that it wasn't a good relationship.

I would look into marriage counseling.

Answer 5

Get the hell out now! I just left an abusive relationship after 4yrs of constant put downs, being told how he could never accept my 2 kids coz they weren't his, and trust me on this one, he'll only get worse. I may have finally gotten out, but I've lost everything coz I took too long to do it. Don't let your kids be emotionally abused by a man who claims to care but obviously doesn't, and start looking after you.

Answer 6

I see this type of situation alot.My fathers new
wife hates me and my sisters and my friend's
husband won't allow her other daughter from
another marriage even come out of her bedroom when he gets home from work.I think
that this could be very destructive to the children's emotions and likewise to your emotions too.Unfortunately you may have to find someone who will appreciate you and your children both.And if you won't do it for yourself
please do it for the sake of the children.This
can cause a lifetime of depression for your kids.
Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Show him that all kids are the same no matter is it his own or yours. Prove to him that his kids are not prefect all kids will make mistake as well as mischeivous. If not you'll need to have a good talk with him make him realise where is his mistake.

Answer 8

any man who isn't FOR or WITH his woman, be it physically, spiritually and emotionally needs to get the steppin'. he is poison for you and unless he chooses to stop and give you that automatic respect you naturally deserve (and your kids too) i'd put him on some SERIOUS notice to either shape up or ship out. get some backbone woman. he should be treating you like the queen you are.

Answer 9

Sounds like a real good time for a serious sit down with a counselor.

Answer 10

get my own place if you won't stand up for your babies who will