help? 2 yr old in potty training...?

Question

This id the second day of potty training my two year old. she is doing okay(#1 q) except she wont go when I tell her to. I try to be happy and excited about it when we do go. I will also go potty too and sometimes it helps her. Also (#2 q) she will not go poop, she seems to be afraid. overall I know it's the only the second day, but I just want to know how to get her in ther and stay still. Am I doing the right things?

Answer 1

Allow her to choose: find set times to go, and ask her if she has to use the potty or not. Ask her to sit on it, just to see. Continue to make it happy, but using time will cause a "schedule" to happen. You will find that it will help her figure things out.

For the #2 issue: it's an odd feeling for them, and they don't always understand it. Sometimes it hurts, and sometimes they have to push very hard. It can be scary for them. Just let her go with it - she will eventually go.

When she goes successfully in the potty - 1or2 - that is a cause for celebration. Reward the good behavior. If she goes a day without wet or soiled pants, then maybe she gets to go out to the park, or out for ice cream. Find a treat she will look forward to. You will find that soon she will catch on. But pushing the issue will only make it a long, hard process. . .

Answer 2

Potty Training is all about control. Your child has to have control over her urination and bms before you can even begin to teach her. They say girls learn before boys so 2 might be ok to start trying and getting her interested but I wouldnt push it actually being trained until 2 1/2 unless she seems more intrested in it. I'd introduce the potty for now. Make a potty chart for the bathroom wall, read potty books let her read them while your pottying and take her with you. If she wants to potty too i'd encourage but whatever you do do not push it or scolled her for accidents. You dont know HOW many kids end up with some serious issues in the long run because of being forced and pushed into it. I'd get her a doll for her to teach to use the potty too.. buy some cOoL pull-ups and an even cooler few pair of panties and talk to her a little each day about how if she starts going she'll be a big girl and can wear big girl pants. The Potty Chart really helped at our house! A 2 year old only has a 2 minute attention span so even if she only sits for 2 minutes still congratualte her and do this everytime.. eventually she'll go. Also a lot of children wont go #2 for awhile.. It's number 1 first for a while for a lot of children. It was like that at our house too. Just give it time... Honestly she'll do it when shes ready just offer a little more encouragement each day.

Answer 3

Your doing good. It's only the second day and from what I gather about potty training, its going rather well. It will take some time. You need to get into a routine. Same time every day take her to the bathroom to sit on the potty. Turn on the faucet to help her go. Sometimes giving them a book while they sit on the potty actually helps there muscles to relax so they can go. I know it may sound silly but it really is true. I'm not sure what it is about looking at a book while sitting on the potty that relaxes the muscles in the stomach/bladder but it really does help toddlers learn. You might also get a little goodie treat and keep them in a basket in the bathroom and every time she sits on the potty she gets a treat when she is done. It will become enjoyable.
The last thing you want is for her to get stressed out and irritated with the process.
I wish you luck and I hope I have helped.

Answer 4

Don't force her what ever you do!

Go out tomorrow to Barns & Noble and buy the Potty Book by Karen Katz. It is a very fun book and good for mom and child!

My son took A YEAR, yes a YEAR! I started training when he was two, we tried stickers, we tried popsicles, we tried prizes, we tried parties, we tried special HUGE rewards, we tried different potties we tried EVERYTHING! Then one day, BOOM! He started using the potty. I really do believe children will do it when they are ready. During the last year however I did EXTENSIVE research on the subject, I thought something was wrong with my son, so in regards to your question:

**DO NOT force your child to use the potty, start by asking every hour, or by placing them on the potty every hour. You are completely correct to be making a big deal out of any success.

**Some children feel as though they are "loosing a part of themself" when they poop and flush it down the toilet. Some children are very aftraid of it. (My son was HORRIFIED then like I say one day he got on the potty and yelled MOMMY I POOPY!)

**You are also doing very well by going with her. Children tend to learn most from example, her watching mommy potty will help her emulate. Tell her what you are doing while you do it, explain that "mommy had a lot to drink and needs to pee pee" and then do it. ALSO: After you use the potty get just as excited as you do for her!

Give her pleanty of time!

Answer 5

Every child is different. Some children take longer to train than others. Dont ever force a child to go poo or potty. Some childrens insides (bladders, ect.) arent developed enough to handle a steady time to use the potty. Always give lots of praise! Be consistant about taking your child to the potty. This is what I did for my daughter and it worked wonders. She is now 3 and is fully potty trained. I bought some poster board and I bought some fun stickers. Whenever my daughter went potty she got to pick out the stickers she wanted and she got to put them on the POTTY POSTER herself. I hung the POTTY POSTER on the bathroom wall next to her potty so she could see the progress she was making. I promised her when she filled that poster up that we would get her a surprise. I didnt make the poster to big tho, like a 8x10 size or so. I also drew her name in fun colors on it. She loved it and she had that whole POTTY POSTER filled in one week and was fully trained. I also bought a special toilet seat for little kids that fits right over the adult potty seat and got her a step stool this way it made her feel as if she was big like mommy to get to do it herself on the big potty without the worry of falling in. The best of luck to you on your training.

Answer 6

sounds like your on the right track.
with our kids, i used 'targets' to add some fun. we took paper towels and a perminant marker to draw small shapes, objects and characters, then cut them out and placed them in a bowl next to the potty. we would do this first thing in the morning and when it came time to go, i let them chose a target, toss it in the potty and bombs away!
being afraid of going poop could be because of the sound and splash it makes. layer t.p. across the top of the water to soften things up a bit. keep track of her b.m. time, more than likely it is about the same time each day. watch for the sounds and signs she'll give and then take her in just in the nick of time. that way she and you are not just sitting around waiting for things to happen.
most importantly, never, ever scold her for anything connected to going potty. it's all about patience, encouragement and practice! she'll get it...the majority of us do!

Answer 7

Does your 2yearold tell you if she has o go potty? Or tell you after she went those are usually the first signs that they are almost ready to start potty training. My son is 2 an im in the process as well we just recently started because he will come tell me he went poo poo after he does it in his pamper !!! Just be patient keep trying an encourageing the potty but dont force it or it will make the process longer !!!

Answer 8

I think being afraid to poop in the potty is normal. Both my kids were afraid to. It's only day two....my kids took a couple of months before they were comfortable enough to do number 2. Sometimes they did, and sometimes they just couldn't bring themselves to do it. Be patient, she will come around.

Answer 9

You cant force them, you will make them afraid!!! My daughter will be 3 in Sept and has been Poop trained since Dec of last year but not pee trained completely. As her Dr. said they are ready when they are ready. If you traumtize them they wont want to go and make it harder and longer for them to train. Just let her see you do it constantly and tell her she can wear big girl underwear like you once she goes. Plus buy her one of those potty books geared for girls, try the one with the real flush sound on it.


Good Luck : -)

Answer 10

I wouldn't put too much pressure on your child. Going potty shouldn't create anxiety in her. Instead, just reward her for trying or succeeding. If you want to avoid the candy trap, try using stickers. You can give her a small one on her hand or shirt for trying, and a larger one on the potty lid for when she succeeds. Still, keep in mind that everyone learns at a different pace. My twin 4-year-olds teach me that daily.

Good luck!