My boyfriend is acting really weird...like we were at a football game that he was coaching and his team lost and he didnt even want to go home with me even though he always does and he didnt even call me...and just lately hes been really out...me and him started dating right after him and his ex gf broke up...im thinking i was the rebound and hes just over it already...i dont know wat to do...or wat to say to him...or how to feel...please help
2006-08-16 18:40:41 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear girl, It's not a nice place to be in....left wondering about how someone feels about you...waiting for answers that you may not look forward to. I'm forty years old and I've been through very many times like that....on the receiving and the giving end.
One thing I've learned is that you cannot, nor ever will be able to control someone else's feelings, they have to go through what they need to go through. Also, you have to trust your own gut instincts, and despite the fact that your instincts might end up making you feel hurt you have to trust them.
Even if you WERE the re-bound, even if he's changed his mind, got bored, a thousand reasons... think about NOT how happy you were with him, but why he was attracted to you in the first place,....what you risked to let him get to know you.....those are a couple of places to see, remember, reflect on your greatness as an individual.
You feel 'sad' because someone let you down. That's pretty simple...it happens. It doesn't mean you're not a beautiful person...it just means one person has too much going on to see it. Take care of you and yours, Markus.
2006-08-16 19:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by markus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the things you're talking about have to do with how your boyfriend is reacting--he lost the game, etc. I know it's hard, but don't blame yourself if he is not acting very nicely to you--it doesn't sound like you've done anything to feel bad about.
It's just the place he is right now, maybe he will throw it off, or maybe he is doing badly, but either way you need to do something fun with other friends! Get together with your girlfriends or family, or even get a good comedy and some popcorn and have fun by yourself if there's no one else around.
You seem to be a very giving person--going to the game he's coaching and everything! If he came to you for comfort that would be one thing, but he's leaving you out in the cold. He was on the rebound--don't you be! Whether he comes back or not, learn to get along with yourself, you'll be stronger for it.
2006-08-17 01:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best thing to do would be to ask him what's going on. Wait a day or two til he calms down about the lost game, and then ask him to meet for cofffee, dinner, a movie, whatever you guys normally do. Then just ask him what's going on. Tell him how you've been feeling and see how he repsonds. There's a good chance he doesn't even realize how you're interpreting his actions. Communication is vital to a good relationship, so if you don't have that, you may as well hang it up. I bet you will find out a lot by just asking a few questions and listening to the answers. Good luck! :)
2006-08-17 01:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through a similar phase with my boyfriend of 2 yrs. That's the thing, its probably just a phase. Sometimes guys go through this thing where they need to regain a sense of independence when they're in a relationship (probably to avoid becoming "whipped"). Whatever reason they have for their actions just makes us girls feel bad, like he doesn't want us anymore or that we've done something wrong. If you know that you have done nothing wrong, just wait it out and give him his space. It usually passes once they realize how much they need you and miss you. Plus, don't worry about being a rebound gf, sometimes that's the best time to get in on a great guy.
2006-08-17 01:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by pretty1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could just be having a bad week or so. Maybe he is stressed or tired... TALK to him. I got with my fiance 2 days after a split from his ex. I was scared at first I was the rebound, but now it's been 3 yrs and I'm not going anywhere :)
2006-08-17 01:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually rebound relationship will last forever. This may sound not right to you but it does. You just have to work on it. That only if he is worth it. So ask yourself a question is he worth it? If he does, then you must work really hard on the relationship. if you don't know how to do that just pm me. Now, if he does not, then just let it go. You feel better I promise.
2006-08-17 01:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl you ARE the rebound girl. what were you thinking? you are so starved that you were willing to eat seconds? the news is that he is over the other girl and you too. he is fishing again and he dont care much for you anymore. and he does not know how to tell you "let's brake up". you may need to take the approach and end it. you will set him free, and you will be free of future agony. wait untill the pain is gone and GO FISHING again. good luck!!
2006-08-17 01:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by luis berrios 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would just ask him what the problem is. If he won't tell you then it is obvious that he has something to hide. I would then ask him if he wanted out of the relationship. See where it goes from there. If he continues to act like that I would stop calling him and see how he likes it. If it doesn't bother him he wanted out anyway and you are better off with out him.
2006-08-17 01:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sad, but part of life. I do believe you are the rebound girl. The relationship was doomed from the beginning. Sorry!
2006-08-17 01:45:00 · answer #9 · answered by ironn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like not only were you the rebound girl, he's also unstable. Can't take the loss of a football game? Takes it out on you? LOSER! Dump 'em.
2006-08-17 01:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋