As of right now I have no REAL proof that my ex is having sex with a 15 year old,but he is. I've filed a police report on him,but the police say they can't do anything unless the girl says that they had sex,and she won't fess up cause she's "in love". He's given me black eyes,he has a warrant out for his arrest. Has been in a car accident while drunk..So I don't think he's in any condition to have a baby around him. Am I wrong? He seems to think that no matter what,he'll get visitation rights..
2006-08-16 18:16:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Visitation is different from custody. All kids deserve to visit their parents. Supervised visitation is with a 3rd party, decided by the parent, or in a center.
This does not give him the right to go anywhere alone with the child, or drive the child anywhere, or be alone, period with the child, so the child will be taken care of, because someone, (you or someone else that you pick) will be there to monitor (supervise) the visit.
Your babys daddy has every right to see his baby, though. He may be an idiot, and he might be a dumb person, but thats not your kids fault. My kids dad is a jerk, too, but he still loves his daddy, so I try to foster their relationship as much as possible. Also, dont talk bad about him in front of your kid. It is very destructive to the kid, to do this, and you dont want to damage your child.
Anyways, what your ex is doing is probably just a way to abuse you some more. Its a common tactic. Just dont allow him to be alone with your kid, please.
2006-08-16 18:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Krista ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am really sorry for you! It depends on where you live. The "system" doesn't work the way we really want it to in most areas, I just recently went on a battle for my sister inlaw, Last year (she was 11) we were told about how there was a possibility that her mom's 65 year old boyfriend had been molesting her. Mom didn't believe her and Dad just didn't do anything. So her big brother and I called social services from 1300 miles away and got an investigation under way. After MORE THAN A YEAR of this man roaming the streets able to pick on any other little girl, he accepted a plea bargain and will only get 6 freaking months in jail! 6 MONTHS!
Ok my idea, you need to call this 15 year olds mother. HOPE TO GOD That she is a real mother with real concerns, she can force her minor daughter to go in and be tested as to whether or not she has had sex.
If that doesn't work, pray, I know that sounds crazy but so many people have problems getting the law to work in their favor, if he is the baby's daddy, he has parental rights, you can prolong in by saying you don't even know if he IS the baby's daddy, but then if he is paying child support you will cease to recieve it. If that is OK, you can force him to take you to court to demand a paternity test which will take a lot of time. During this time he won't have rights to your child most likely.
Good Luck I really hope it works out for you!
Oh yeah, and NO you are not wrong!
2006-08-17 01:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by #3 Due December 25th!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably get visitation rights, but you can control how much and the terms if you prepare now. First, collect any paperwork, police reports, current names, addresses and phone numbers of any witnesses to your abuse at his hands. Speak with the Child Support Enforcement office of Family Services and/or an attorney (legal aid can may be able to help you if you don't have a lot of money). If you know the father's parents, talk with them in a respectful way, about your concerns for the baby and for their right to see her. They will feel like partners and be of more help. (If they are hostile, then just leave them alone.) The girl he is sleeping with doesn't have to admit to anything and her parents can get a restraining order against him if they see fit. You may want to talk to them or give them an anonymous phone call. The police couldn't do anything because you have no proof and your are his ex, although they will rarely tell you that. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, but if you are still breast-feeding, that can help to reduce the time he can have her and will encourage the judge to order him to visit with her at a Visitation Center or your home (have large male friends there). Good luck, and don't stop fighting, even if things don't go your way, there is always another appeal.
2006-08-17 01:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have filed the abuse and assault charges against him, I don't think that he will get visitation. I also think that his character comes into question. And if there is an active warrant for his arrest, I really don't see the court giving him any sort of visitation. I think he will be arrested if he steps into court. . .
2006-08-17 01:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will likely get supervised visits meaning you or someone else like a socail worker will be thier when he is with the child.
Have you by any chance tried contacting this little girls parents?
What I want to know is what a idiot 15 year old child is doing with someone with a child and WTF her idiot parents are while she is spreading her legs and by law being molested
2006-08-17 01:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy_Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will and should get visitation for your childs sake. Good, bad, or indifferent that is the childs father and the child needs to know their father. He has not done anything to the child!
2006-08-17 14:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her supoened to court then she has to testify and be under oath...She can't lie under oath......It doesn't sound like your ex is going to get Father of the year award anytime soon...If he does get visitation they will probably be with someone there with him and your baby
2006-08-17 02:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without proof that he's "unfit" he will get visitation...however you can ask that it be supervised by the state department of children services due to the domestic violence if you have proof of that.
Bright Blessings
Athena
2006-08-17 01:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by kjathena1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Document everything and get a good lawyer as he could get access but if he does try to get it supervised access
2006-08-17 03:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry..the way that loser is living..he'll be dead real soon.
people like that don't care about life..and it'll be taken from him like candy from a baby.
you'll see.
2006-08-17 01:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋