I've heard different opinions. Some say it is too tacky and demanding to print the registry on the invitations. My friend attached internet links onto her e-vite to her bridal shower, but how would you let other guests know?
2006-08-16 17:56:32 · 14 answers · asked by sando 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is tacky to print the registry on the invitations.
For those whom are invited to a shower, the person throwing the shower usually indicates on that invitation where the bride and groom are registered.
As for those guests who have been invited to the wedding, but not one of the showers, it is customary for them to contact the bride or grooms parent to find out where the couple is registered. These guests are usually friends of the parents or business associates, and are not expected to get a wedding and a shower gift as closer friends usually do.
For the proper way to handle things such as these, you can get a book on proper wedding etiquette at most any bookstore or even the Internet.
And good luck on the wedding and marriage. And just one more piece of advice. Don't be greedy when registering for your wedding-a friend of mine was getting married, and he and his bride had been living together for a few years prior to getting married, so they had everything for their home, etc. But when they registered for the wedding, they requested everything brand new, like they wanted to start completely over again. It really came off as tacky and greedy,(my lord they had 11 pages of items to pick from). They already had children and asked for things for the children, too-it just came off as tacky and make the whole wedding seem like it was all bottom line for the gifts.
2006-08-16 18:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is soooo tacky and very poor manners to include any kind of registry information in the wedding invitations, be it printed or the little enclosure cards! PLEASE don't do this!
The registry information can go in a shower invitation, and anyone who wants to know should know enough to ask your family, a member of the wedding party or even you!
I hate it when people say it's okay these days because people don't know about this type of etiquette anymore. We just perpetuate the cycle by giving in to bad manners!
Have a lovely wedding!
2006-08-17 05:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by Shower Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of mouth.
My husband and I received majority of all of the gifts we registered for by word of mouth. When guest wants to purchase a gift for you and hubby, trust me they will ask you, someone you know or related to you where are you registered. They can also find out where you are registered at a bridal shower.Please do not put the little cards in the invitations. This will make your invitation look tacky.
2006-08-17 18:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely rude to publicize or volunteer your own registry information in ANY way-- in the invitations, on your wedding website, through a mass-email, etc. that makes you look like you're getting married for the presents.
A polite bride WAITS TO BE ASKED, then you may tell the person.
You should verbally tell your parents and maid of honor, in case anyone asks THEM for gift ideas for you. After that, it spreads by word of mouth.
If your shower is being thrown by a non-family member (really, all showers should be), it's BARELY ok for the shower hostess to include mention of your registry in the shower invitations.
2006-08-17 06:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a friend is having a bridal shower for you... have her put it in the shower invites... its better there than in the actual wedding invitation. And then if someone asks you or someone you are close to on ideas for a gift, you could tell them where you are registered. Congrats and best wishes for a long happy marriage.
2006-08-17 00:35:53 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will either ask you, your parents or your bridesmaids.
My daughter put up a webpage about her wedding--it included things like maps to the church and a link to their registry. She had the web address on the invitation. That way just the basic info was on it, but if people wanted more they had someplace to go. If people aren't computer savy they'll either ask your parents or you.
2006-08-16 19:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by Plain and Simple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
word of mouth to close members to all others use the cute little card they give you when you register and stick them in the invitation with a paper confetti so it doesn't seem too tacky. I am having a beach wedding so a bought a small palm tree punch and have used nice colorful paper to punch them. It's really cute!
2006-08-16 19:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wedding shower is really a way. As wedding shower will be hosting not by you. So the guest book front will be nice.
Invitation is good to.
idearibbon
2006-08-16 19:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Idea Ribbon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One way is to give people a list of your registries in your wedding invitations and in your shower invitations. Since everyone did not have E-mail and a lot of our guests were from out of town we placed a small piece of paper with a list of our registries in the invitaions. A lot of our guests told us they appreciated that.
2006-08-16 18:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Subtlety is the name of the game. Your family will ask (or tell them). Same with your closest friends... they should ask you and should proactively spread the word. If they don't, let me know "In case anyone asks, we're registered at..."
That'll get the word out. A lot of guests will just come out and ask where you are registered, and of course you can tell them then.
If my wedding was any indication, word spreads quickly -- without advertisement!
2006-08-16 18:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Andy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋