Hi im dan and i am going to be a first time dad in 6 months what showed i do to be a good father to this child

Question

i wanna be the best father for this child and be the best man for the mother how do i do that ?

Answer 1

Anyone can be a father but it takes a real man to be a Dad. All you need to do is give the child your unconditional love and the rest will come naturally. Always remember that children need emotional and physical as well as financial support. Take the time to explain things to your child. They understand more than people think. You're on the right track by wanting to be a good Dad. Just hug your child and tell them you love them at least once a day. As far as being the best man for the mother...Give her respect and love and always treat her as you would want her to treat you. Talk to each other; not at each other. Communication, honesty and respect are the keys there. It wouldn't hurt to give her a day of rest once in a while. That way she can recharge and doesn't get burnt out either. You seem to have good intentions. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

They sell books just for this reason. If you're as serious as you seem, you should buy a few. And, by the way, none of them are written by Stephen King. I just thought you'd like to know that.

My parenting skills soared when I started working at a day care center. Learning all the appropriate methods and techniques for raising children is pretty much required there. Maybe volunteering at a good group daycare in your spare time would be beneficial. It also will help you to be able to choose a day care, should you need to.

NEVER leave your child with a second-rate day care, or babysitter! Having the knowledge to know the difference between good and bad in this area is imperative.

Learn to look natural when you're holding a baby. Kind of like you didn't notice the baby was there. There's nothing worse than having females hovering around, uneasy about you holding your own children. Once they think you're good with the child, they might allow you to be good with the child.

I'm not sure if it's society, or genetics, but you'll find a lot of women (not all, thankfully) feel threatened by a man who's good with kids. Watch out for them, if you feel those watching eyes burrowing into the back of your head, defer the credit for being the better parent... to them. Yep, concede the victory. Find some way to slip it into the conversation. "Well, I'll never be the parent YOU are... but..." Something like that. Parental pissing matches get ugly.

They say with your first child, when the pacifier falls on the floor, you boil it and run it under cold water, before you give it back to the child. With the second child, you rinse it off before giving it back to them. With the third, you just pop it back in their mouth.

It's very true, about how parents educate themselves. Worrying about cleanliness around the house is good, but it can be taken too far. For the first three months, you want to wash your hands before picking up baby, and try to avoid sick people, if possible. Baby's immune system needs to fully develop.

After three months (three months is an estimate on my part, ask the doctor for a better one) Baby can handle a little bit more, and needs to, because immune systems get weak if they're not made to work once in a while. By two years, you may be ready to let the dog lick Baby's face.

Back to the day care thing... There's mixed feelings about the benefits of a good daycare in the life of a child. Having a stay-at-home parent is awesome, if you can afford it, but the only people Baby gets to know is Mom and Dad. In daycare they meet peers. Actual little people just the same size as Baby. And they develop social skills because of it.

The one drawback to group daycare is the spread of disease. Kids just can't always be taught how to keep clean at a young age, no matter how hard the daycare provider tries. Some kids are sick more often than they're healthy in daycare, and some never seem to get sick. Not surprisingly, the ones that live in a sterile household seem to get sick more easily than the other kids.

Well, Dan, I was going to go on, but looking at what I've said so far, I guess I've said enough. I hope you enjoy my book. Sorry about that. Good luck, and congratulations! You're gonna love being a Dad (most days, anyway).

Answer 3

For the child, being extremely patient, and understanding when you're sleep is interrupted a lot during the night due to this life you created. It will not be the child's fault nor will it understand what it's doing to your nerves; for crying is the only way the child can let you know it needs help in some way. For the mother just help as usual. The mother needs to be patient and understanding as well for the child. I would go into greater detail but it's so late. I at least hope this is a start.

Answer 4

Congratulations on your impending fatherhood!

My husband said to me when i was pregnant that the best thing that any father could do for his child was to love the child's mother.

He is a great father (our cherub is now 8) and took part in the nocturnal feeds (by bottle!) and nappy changing right from the start when he wasn't at work. Our son is as much his as mine now which is in part due to the fact that he took part in our sons cares right from the start.

I also cant help thinking that the fact that you are willing to ask questions like this mean that you will probably make a great father who is willing to learn more as well as get stuck into any jobs going.

all the best!

Answer 5

Love them both will all your heart and soul.

I watch my husband with our year old daughter, and there is no doubt in my mind that he loves her. He plays with her, cares for her, just sits with her and talks to her. And she loves him - you can see it just by the way she looks at him and smiles. I think the playing and interactions are the best, but if you really love them and show it everyday, your child will remember that above all.

For the mom - love and support. My husband got up with me everytime our baby woke up during the night. He never slept through the crying. It was nice to know that I was not the only one not sleeping. He also treated me like a queen before and after the baby was born. I get breakfast in bed once in a while, back rubs (the best when you are pregnant - especially later on when your belly is setting things off kilter), and he never told me how big I was getting - he always told me how beautiful he thought I was, even when I thought I looked like a beached whale.

Good luck, and love your new family like no one else can!!!

Answer 6

DO as I sy not as I have done. be there for him in all ways there are some things more inportant than money, go to his or her ball games or plays what what ever may be. Always be open with your child ,let them know that they can talk to you no matter what. I raised my son by myself so didn't have much choice but done the best I could Good luck and congrats to you the only experince better is being a grandparent

Answer 7

Always tell your child the truth and even though at first you must nuture your child in everyway make sure as the child grows you make them aware of the reality of the world. The worst thing you can do to your child is send it into this world unprepared. Always be respectful to the mother and no matter what never yell, fight, or show anything but respect in front of your child.

Answer 8

Lots of patience and lots of love for both baby and mom

Two books I highly recommend:

What to Expect the First Year - it's a great resource for both mom and dad, it's the next best thing to having an owner's manual for a baby

The Father's Almanac - it tells you everything a dad needs to know from helping your wife/dealing with you wife (lol) playing with kids, how babies develop into kids, etc

They were invaluable to me. Of course, my dad was awesome. When in doubt, I try to emulate him. So far, so good. I have a wonderful 10 year old daughter who has lots of friends and who is loved by every teacher she's had. :)

Congratulations! And good luck!

Answer 9

Well always spend time with the child. And take some time with the child. just because the mother gave birth give her a break and take of the child and things like that.

Answer 10

to be a good father you need to be a good husband/boyfriend too. help out with diaper changes, feeding the baby...stuff like that. even though the baby dont understand the words talk to him/her. the mother of this child is going to be in lots of pain whether she has it natural or by c-section and will need your help. this is a good time to get the baby to know you well. when my baby was new born i read to her alot and talked to her, things like that and by the time she was 6 months she got tested and was 2 and 1/2 times as smart as babies her age.