Why is it that we always want what we can't have?

Question

Especially when you know you're not willing to risk what you have to reap the possible rewards...

I'm head-over-heels in love with my best friend. We've both had crushes on each other, in the past, and it's beyond that for me, now. However, I don't know if either of us is willing to risk losing our friendship over a "what-if", even though if things work out they'd be great!

Answer 1

Well, you can love someone, but not like them, and being friends first already gives you two what alot of people don't have. Maybe your friend is ready to move forward too, but is afraid to say anything to you. Just be open and honest with each other, and if you don't try to control each other as friends, then don't do it if you get more serious. And if you're mature enough, there is no reason you can't remain friends if this doesn't work out. Good luck.

Answer 2

In answer to your question.... All to many times men and women marry but are not friends. In a few years or after a few kids they divorce and loose a good life, harm the inocent kids and find another to start over with. The idea that everything will be ok. But the truth is the cycle starts over again because they started in the flesh and not in the spirit.
Friendships that turn to marriage tend to last much longer even till death do you part. It become true Love. Placing God at the head of the family will insure it to be.

Answer 3

Sometimes some of the best marriages happen between best friends.

Other times it's like the song: God's greatest gift is saying no. (Unanswered prayers)....

If you believe in God or not, you must agree that as you said, you aren't sure what to do.

One approach is to go forward little by little, and you may be surprised how well things go, or if you are really good friends, you will decide that you can always be great friends but you will only feel like friends not people in love (that happened to me several times and it is great.)

Answer 4

there's a reason why they call it 'falling in love' cause its a risk itself. I've fallen in love with my best friend without me realising it, but then i backed out reason because he already got a gf and i dont want to jeopardize our relationship n we parted bad ways...it is never advisable to do that but then if u dont do it u will be wondering for the rest of ur life about 'what if'...think of it this way if it doesnt kills u it will just make u stronger...love is not just 'to love n to hold ' love is also letting go of someone that u love knowing he/she will be happier with some1 else...what is it to u? think about it..

Answer 5

If your friend is also in love with you. it is time for both of you to acknowledge it. What is perhaps scary for both of you is not so much about losing your friendship is that he may or you may be the one. If he loves you, you can have what you want.

Answer 6

I don't want to say I have been thought it all.I haven't ,What you ask?Well long relationships or married.I have been thought one night stand and best friends.To me it is not worth loosen your good friend over.I cried my eyes out and still crying because he is not around.We try it and we bumped head to many time's.Know we can't even talk to each other.I wish I can still have him has my best friend again.

Answer 7

me & my husband started out as good friends and we've been married for 8 yrs. its a chance you have to take.but remember you where friends first and thats a great start

Answer 8

Ingratitude.

Answer 9

Sounds like you are talking about emotionally sick people
Life is about taking chances. You don't buy the ticket, you won't win the lottery.

Answer 10

u wont know unless u try it. if u both like each other then go for it. if it don't work out u can still be friends.