They are constantly argueing and my father refuses to talk to my mother. I just want to help end all of this! Please give some suggestions!
2006-08-16 17:28:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They have already been divorced for two years. I am seventeen.
2006-08-18 17:15:45 · update #1
Your role is to stay out of it. Parents disagree, but you are not the peacemaker. That is up to them.
2006-08-16 17:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You are not responsible for your parents and their happiness. They are responsible for their own relationship. It hurts when parents fight, but it does not mean that they don't love you, or regret having you. When they fight in front of you, you can ask them to stop but they are your parents and unless you are an adult (of at least 25, parents have a hard time seeing their children as adults) keep your words and tone respectful. Find someone to talk to, a friend, a counselor, etc. and find something to do that will distract you from the arguing, listen to music, play a video game, read, take a walk, just something. Your parents will work this out, there is nothing you can do.
2006-08-17 00:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are, but I can only suggest one thing:
When they are both in the same room, and it is calm, if you can, tell them that you are upset about this. Try to think of a good way (you know them) to suggest they go someplace by themselves and get everything off their chest, out in the open, etc.
It could be they will get divorced - it happens. It's better than fighting for everyone involved.
2006-08-17 00:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but you getting in the middle will not do any good.In fact it might cause more harm.They might try to get you to take sides and then it would just put alot of undue stress on you.If I were you,I would talk to a guidance councelor at school and tell them how it makes you feel and perhaps they might be able to meet with all three of you so that you could tell them how you feel about their constant arguing without them trying to pursuade you whose fault it is.
2006-08-17 05:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by sunkissed299 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be the daughter/son that you are. Remember you are part of the family. Don't meddle with what they are arguing about. The best you can do is to constantly remind them of how happy your family is before that argument took place. Or invite them over dinner/lunch with all the family members and reminisce the wonderful moments you've shared together.
2006-08-17 00:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by huggermugger4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help your parents get along and it's not your fault they are arguing. I'd just leave the house when they are arguing and try to go somewhere more cheerful. They have a problem. You might try telling them how much it upsets you when they do this but, they may or may not listen. Good luck to you.
2006-08-17 00:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do...Your parents should check into counseling or find a third party not connected to them to talk out whats bothering them. Are they doing this in front of you? If so that is very wrong. Just walk out of the room if they do this, there is no need for you to hear them...
2006-08-17 00:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be in the middle of their troubles with each other. Tell them that their arguing is hurting and upsetting you. It is their responsibility to find ways to get along with one another.
2006-08-17 00:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT! Don't get in middle!
If you get in middle, it could make things worse because you may will mess things up ever more. They also will try to turn you against one other.
I have been in this situtation and it is worse situtation you could be in. You really don't want to be around them and hear them tell you bad stuff about eachother I promise.
2006-08-17 00:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good to be in the middle of things esp w/r to your parents coz you're their child, and you're afffected somehow, and it's just goes to show you care about them and your family. but there can be issues where it's best to leave it to them to resolve- so don't just push it so hard. just tell them and show to them that you are there and that you care whatever happens to your family, and that if they need help coming from you, you'd be glad to be of help alleciate the difficulties they are involved right now.
2006-08-17 00:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by paoui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋