The relationship was ended only a week before our 5 year anniversary. We have had our ups and downs. But I believe we truly love one another. It's just I was an asshole. I realize that now, but I'm affaid it's too late. That maybe she's gave up hope in me. I really want to right this wrong. We are both still single and currently talking as "friends"
2006-08-16 17:19:47 · 17 answers · asked by J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen, talk to her about it. Tell her how much you really love her. Tell her that you are willing to change the controlling habit. You are doing this for her. I have come to learn and believe that when you love that special person, you are willing to change a habit that is part of your selfhood. In other words, changing something that is in you. People change something in their individuality when you are in love, or like that person. I did; and it was a bad habit of mine she didn't like. It seems like you'll never know how much you love her untill you lose it, get me? Anyways, I still believe that you can do something about it. I think that you are not late. There's still hope, man. C'mon, five years? Both of you and her can't throw those splendid years away, right? You'll never know untill you try. You got to let her know about it. Of course you're going to mean every word you say to her because those will come from your heart. You are trying to earn her heart again by respecting her. You got to know that you can't deprive her from anything, man. Either can't she to you. Learn that it doesn't make you a man by doing such thing. But I know that you are a man now for realizing this. This thing that tore your relationship apart. Now, go to talk to her and try to get her back! You got to be brave enough to tell her that you were wrong. Learn to admit things. Learn to point out your mistakes. Learn from them. Let her know how much that lady means to you. I believe there's hope, a spark, in that love. You got to try to spark that fire. I wish you my very best, dude. Good Luck!
2006-08-16 17:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see, it ended because you were controlling, you claim to see the error of your ways, yet you are trying to manipulate her once again in order to win her back. Doesn't seem like you've actually seen the light honey. Keep talking to her as friends. After five years I'm sure she still has feelings for you too. Just keep in mind, that if you try to force it, she's going to go in the opposite direction. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Right now, your job is to just do everything and anything possible to show her that you've changed. Aside from that, you can't really do anything to make her come back to you.
2006-08-17 00:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the first or second time she broke up with you try telling her how sorry you are and tell that you'd like to get back with her. Then let her call you. In the mean time date other people and practice not being to controling.
If you two have broken up more than 3 times then it could be possible that you two do truly love each other but, aren't meant to be together.
2006-08-17 00:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is smart there will be nothing you can do to win her back. I don't see a thing in your post to indicate that you have worked on the control issues. You should do that and WIN YOURSELF BACK before you even think of reconciling with this woman or approaching any other.
2006-08-17 00:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to give her some time first dude. maybe both of you need some time. its good that you two are remaining friends. you are back where you started. try to remember when you first started dating. what did you do then to make her fall for you? cos you are gonna have to do it all over again. you are both different people now. act as though you havent spent the last 5 years with her and your gonna be dating her for the first time. get back to some old fashioned romance. goodluck.
2006-08-17 00:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her! Tell her everything that you just told us! As soon as possible, talk to her, in person, and alone. Tell her that you are sorry for what went wrong. Let her know that you were being an *** and that you want to make it up to her. Explain that you love her and that you are willing to do what ever it takes to get her back into your love life! Tell her that you are going to do everything in your power to make it up to her, and if that means having to start all over again, that you are willing to do it! Make sure she knows as soon as possible, you may still have time!
~God bless
2006-08-17 00:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counselling, find out why you're so darn controlling, and stop the behavior. And then, after a year of learning how to manage your controlling behaviors, ask her out.
2006-08-17 00:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself into counseling. When you have been going by yourself for a couple months, then invite her along & tell her how much you WANT to change & WANT her to come back & work things out with you.
2006-08-17 00:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man your on your own if you can get her back it would be a miracle. Because if your controling its not gonna win her back knowing the past that you have. oh and get counseling
2006-08-17 00:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your gay...
its okay cause whoever you deceide that you are, I am still am going to love you, but just not in that gay way, cause god makes all people diffrent sizes and shapes and problems, but he only makes the people he hate gay,
thats you, you it boy
you gay!
2006-08-17 00:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋