the point in even trying to appologize, if they refuse to hear you out..Aren't you just wasting both your time and thiers? Yes, it will make YOU feel better for trying to fix the problem, but if they are not willing to listen?????
2006-08-16 17:10:16 · 23 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Part of growing up (and I don't mean YOU are not grown up) consists of learning which battles to fight and which ones are hopeless cases.
2006-08-16 17:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if they are too upset to listen, then you need to back off and give them some space to calm down.
You may need to wait a few days or more, before approaching them once again.
Make your apologies and ask them how they want you to fix this problem you may have caused.
If they still do not want to accept your attempts to make amends it is possible that :
A. They are extremely immature, in which case let it go.
Walk away from this relationship.
B. You did something pretty bad and they no longer want to have you in their life. Accept this gracefully. Walk away and try to do better with your other friends or relationships.
C. They don't believe you are sincere. If they don't believe you are sincere, you must have given them a reason to believe that. Try to right whatever wrong you did and that might show them you are sincere.
And after the above, get on with your life, learn from this and try not to repeat the same mistakes.
2006-08-17 02:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by pinegreen7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get into an argument and the other person retires from the playing field, you win. Apologies are not necessary. You can do a little victory dance, raise fist into the air and yell in an exaggerated yet vigorous tone, "YEEEyAAAAAHHH, see, shut you up!"
Remember, if they aren't talking, and you are loud enough, they have to be listening and so do your friends and their friends.
Don't try to fix a problem where there is none. You won, that's that.
Boogie on.
Look for the next argument something like the average number of friends people have.
2006-08-17 00:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point in apologizing if the other person is not willing to even listen. But you can try later again when you feel the person has cooled down. If still you can not fix the problem then I guess you have done your bit.
2006-08-17 02:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by arzu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it some time for both people to cool off and then try to make peace. If it's not possible then just go on with your life.
At last count I think there were around six billion people on this planet. That's enough of a pool to find some other friends if this relationship is toast.
2006-08-17 00:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did a lot to pi$$ this person off! Get a clue, you damaged or killed a relationship. You need to feel true remorse for what you did before you go spouting your mouth off with those overused "I'm sorry" phrases. When you are really sorry, and you do something to prove it, AND make darned sure you don't repeat the mistake, then that person will welcome you back. Three Rs: Remorse, Repair the damage, and Responsibility.
If you aren't prepared to take these steps, then write off this person. No need to fake it.
2006-08-17 00:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by nitr0bike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely hate it when people say "I never want to talk with you again."
If you think about it, that's a REALLY strong thing to say! You're saying you want to break off all contact with that person, and most people abuse that phrase, it ticks me off.
I would suggest that if they are unwilling to listen, then give it a break for a while. Make an attempt to fix it and apologize, and if they won't hear it, give them plenty of time. Wait a few weeks. Then keep trying in order to preserve the friendship. If they still haven't cooled down by that time, then it's time to forget them, and wait for them to come to you.
The important thing though is that if they *do* come to you, respond with love and not with malice! If they come back to you, welcome them with open arms :)
2006-08-17 00:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by kenny_the_bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best idea is to probably just let the person cool off and try talking to them about whatever the problem is at another time. When people get angry and stressed out they are often irrational and chances are they didn't truly mean they didn't want to talk to you ever again.
2006-08-17 00:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by sndsofscnce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should attempt to be polite even if appears hopeless. If you feel you were in the wrong you should apologize, whether they are willing to listen or not. After you apologize you need never speak to them again.
2006-08-17 01:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...sounds like the appology isn't accepted.
If they NEVER wanna speak to you again...at least you know where you stand! Sometimes when you hear " I'm sorry" from someone so much...it losses all it's meaning. : (
2006-08-17 00:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Helzabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. I believe in humbling oneself and if you need to apologize to make up then do so. But if the person can't accept an apology well, at least you did your part in trying. And then just leave it at that.
You can't force someone to listen and accept an apology.
But at least they can't say you didn't ever try to make up.
2006-08-17 00:17:46 · answer #11 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋