I like a certain friend a lot. I've been fairly obvious about my attraction all along, and she has said that she likes me very much, finds me attractive, and thinks we have a lot in common. Yet, she also thinks a relationship between us would be "weird".
I totally don't get it. I've always thought we be a great match, and she has kept hanging out with me, even though at one point, I all but came out and told her was in love with her.
I do care about her as a friend, of course, but it's hard to be "just friends" when you really want it to go further. So, I recently told her that I needed some space from her for exactly that reason, and we haven't seen each other much since.
Anyone think there's hope of changing her mind about romance? (She broke up with a serious boyfriend, but that was like two years ago, and there seems to be no one else in the picture.) Or should I just get over myself and try to be her friend, if that's all she wants?
2006-08-16 17:03:39 · 14 answers · asked by Blenderhead 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She definitely just wants to be a friend. Two years and she hasn't taken you up on your obvious advances. I have a friend like this. I like him a great deal, but we have shared too much private information (mostly about me) for me to be attracted to him. He really isn't my type romantically. Kind of comes off like a father or big brother figure. Your friend may feel the same way about you.
That's the danger in not making your move soon enough. Familiarity can breed, if not contempt, disinterest. Now I think my friend is distancing himself from me for the same reason you are distant from your friend. I didn't mean to hurt him in any way, but I just can't settle for him because he is available.
2006-08-16 17:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 23:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been in the same situation. You have to tell her maybe organise a special dinner date and come clean to her. Tell her exactly how you feel and ask if you can give it a go. But also tell her if she wants to only stay friends then thats cool too. My best friend (a guy) was totally in love with me at one stage and i was totally clueless..
2006-08-16 17:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation. Ask yourself this, would you be willing to still be friends if she never changed her mind? If the answer is yes, as in my case, then you shouldn't let it break up the friendship, just stay friends and see where it goes.
2006-08-16 17:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this isnt as obvious as you thought, you can try but you have to consider that it might ruin the friendship if you push too much. If she wants to be friends only, thats all that gonna happen.
2006-08-16 17:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to be ur friend then go for it be her friend. but if u want her to like u then back off a lil and make it seem like u don't like her like that and maybe she will come to u. if u give her a lot of attention and then back off. she will miss all that attention and want it back. and she's not going to get it from any one else so she will come to u for it and maybe see u in a different light.
good luck man.
2006-08-16 17:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by baby_blue_blonde87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its normally not set in stone, but give her some space and just try the friend thing.
2006-08-16 17:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is ever set in stone. Try to get alone with her and talk it out.
2006-08-16 17:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the times when I say it I mean in fact I have never said it and did'nt mean it, I'm forty years old.
2006-08-16 17:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by babibrowneyes143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. hang on to the friendship. but dont wait around forever. it's not always set in stone, but you should probably explore your options.
2006-08-16 17:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by tovahh. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋