how do i explain to a guy?

Question

that i just got over a long time relationship break up
and i am not ready to go into another relationship
because i am still very hurt/upset
because he cheated.
he just proved to me after cheating on me once that he wan't like that.
then about 6 months later he did it again. i just don't know what to do about the breakup and this new guy.
who later i might want to date.
but now is not the right time

thanks

i need serious help with this

Answer 1

all that you said up there.
say those same exact words.
its better to let out the truth and exactly what you feel in a breakup.
its the only chance to say all you need to say.
and itll take a lot off your shoulders.

Answer 2

wow girl. Seems like you been some rough hell of a time. Well right now what I call it is "healing proccess" . Eventually you got be straight up the dude who you want to be with. Just tell him that you dont want to rush into things & you just got a long term relationship break up. He will understand hopefully. I mean if hes understandable he would probably give you the comfort that you need. Which would be helpful.

Answer 3

Tell him what you just told us! Guys understand things better if you just give it to them straight. Tell him that you may want to date him later on, but for now you would rather just take a break from dating because you were seriously hurt by a guy who had made a promise to you, and broke it. Tell him you are still hurting and that you would rather wait to make the decision about dating him when you are in a better emotional state. He will understand, and if he doesn't, then he isn't worth dating later on anyway, right?
~God bless

Answer 4

You need to just be honest with him and tell him that you aren't ready for a serious relationship right now. With experience I've learned that guys respond more to honesty than you letting them believe there is something there that isn't. Just be real with him and yourself. All breakups need time. Especially ones that truly hurt.

Answer 5

It should be simple enough. Just tell him that you aren't ready to be with any one person in particular, due to the hurt of your last relationship. You don't have to go into details, just ask him to understand that you need some personal healing time. If he seems hurt, as if you were rejecting him, assure him that you appreciate his attention, but you just need your time.

Answer 6

Just tell him you are hurt but healing. Ask him to take things slowly... the reverse psychological thinking of most guys cause them to want you more, but you just let him know. But don't punish him for the mistakes of the loser, either. Take it slow darling. Be honest with yourself. A journal and lots of prayer can help you heal.
Peace.

Answer 7

You seem to have done a good job explaining the situation just now, why not try the same approach with him? Just be straight with him. Not all of us are insensitive clods.

Answer 8

YOU JUST NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HIM AND TELL THAT
YOU REALLY ARE NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT
NOW BECAUSE OF WHAT HAS BEEN GOING ON. AND IF
HE REALLY CARE FOR YOU THEN HE WILL UNDERSTAND
HOW YOU FEEL. IF HE DOESNT, THEN YOU KNOW THAT
IT BETTER TO KNOW NOW THEN LATER. OTHER WISE
YOU WILL GO THROUGH THE SITAUTION AGAIN.

Answer 9

He may not want to hear what you said above but you need to tell him "ASAP", and if he cant handle the fact that a boyfriend is not what you need right now then "girl" you don't need him!!!

Answer 10

Tell him u like him and you can be friends. Actually you NEED his friendship. You two could grow closer is you allow him to be there for you at this time in your life. He can be instrumental in cheering you up, instead of you moping around about your philandering ex.