My problem is that my sister left the state to get away from her problems and her solution was to stay with a guy in another state away from everyone. The guy is illegal, he got her pregnant (he would pull off the condom) and now they are married. He has gotten in trouble numerous times because he is an alcoholic. He has a job, makes ok money, but I don't like the way he treats her. I know he is just using her to get what he wants. (She told me his lawyer told him that if he married an American girl and had a baby he would have no problems getting legal) (He has had several DUI's which is puzzling to me, why is this guy still here?) Now he got drunk again and got in trouble, he is thinking of going on the run and taking them with him, he is worried he'll be sent back. What do I do? Stay out of it? It's my baby sister so it's hard too, and now there is a baby involved. I've thought about reporting him but I couldn't live with myself. What are the laws? What would you do?
2006-08-16 16:34:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually you have to complete a whole mess of papers before you can become legal after marriage. He can't do this because in order for him to become legal she has to ask our government for a pardon. (On his part for all his DUI's) I've tried to talk to her, I know it's her problem, but it's also mine. I'd die if something happened to her. And no, he isn't physically abusive as far as I know, then he die... (j/k but he'd be in a lot of pain.)
2006-08-16 16:58:03 · update #1
slap him with a chalupa.
no seriously though, he sounds like a dick. help your sister.
2006-08-16 16:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk to your sister about your concerns. Let her know that you are worried about her and that she has someone there to help her if she needs help. I'm sure you don't want her to go away with him. So, she doesn't live near you? If she does, then maybe the two of you could see a family counselor. I'm sure deep down, she doesn't want to be with him while he acts like this. She's probably scared and doesn't know what to do. You don't want him to hurt her or the baby, do you? I think that if worse comes to worse, you should turn him in, for their safety. You might feel bad at first, but you will know in the long run that you did the right thing. She may be upset with you for awhile, but she will eventually understand. Just because they are married, doesn't make him legal until they go through this long process, so as of right now, he is illegal and you can turn him in.
2006-08-16 23:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by ginger sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married to her, he's not illegal anymore. Yes, there's the paper work to go through, but it is not that complicated at all. Of course your sister will have to request the pardon, and she WILL do it for him. Unless she wants to raise the baby by herself in the different state running from her own problems. Also, he has a citizen child, so he will get the citizenship anyway.
2006-08-17 00:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister left the state to GET AWAY from her problems, and this is what she ended up running away TO? I don't know what her problems were before, but they sound pretty bad now.
If it's clear he's using her AND he's an alcoholic, um, she should leave him. Those kinds of guys are dangerous. Would she really want him to raise her kid?!
2006-08-16 23:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not for you to decide, bro. Your sister needs to make a decision regarding what she wants. I have two sisters and they both married @ssholes their first time out. Doesnt matter what you tell them, they have to figure it out on their own.
If you were to call someone (like INS) your sister would never forgive you, and the adversity from the family would only make her defend him. Just be there when she needs you, thats it.
2006-08-16 23:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I would say that you need to do something but be careful how you do it, your sister may end up hating you if you go about things the wrong way.
Good luck sweetie, I hope things work out for everyone involved.
2006-08-16 23:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by girlfromflorida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk some sense into your sister. Tell her to get away from this no good low life. Does she want her baby to grow up around this kind of stuff? Hopefully she will listen!
2006-08-16 23:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the best thing is maybe ask your sister to let the baby move with you if u are able to try to take care of that baby or you should probably have a long talk wit her and let her kno u a worried about her and that baby and just let everything go and pray for it ask god to help u and her and that baby..
2006-08-16 23:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by LoveDolve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do what is best for the baby and the sister. Intervene. I know you dont want to cause trouble but sometimes that is the only way.
2006-08-16 23:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Immigration people like that waste tax payers money. It is your responsibility as an American citizen to uphold the law
2006-08-16 23:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by mariezernalynpalmares 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing...turn him in. Even if he is married to an American he needs to be documented. Marrage is no longer a free green card.
2006-08-16 23:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by yager19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋