My bf and I have been dating 6 yrs...it seems like he will never talk about the future of our relationship...he says he loves, I love him, he says he won't even be ready to talk about the subject of marriage for at least another 3-4 years...He is almost 30 and I am 25....how long should one wait to know if marriage is a possibility or not?
2006-08-16 16:32:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you think I should give him time...how much time..I don't think I am willing to give him another 3 or 4 years...that's just too long!
2006-08-16 16:41:13 · update #1
You shuld wait as long as you are willing to wait. If you are not willing to wait any longer, then maybe you should bring up the idea of seeing other people. I suggest you read a book called "The Surrendered Single." I think it will help you with this question.
2006-08-16 16:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by dSweetBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you first, are you ready to get married? Do you really love your boyfriend and you think he is really the one for you? Long-term engagement does not guarantee a successful marriage. Your relationship may be running quite long, it's not enough basis to go into the marriage thing.
You can't force your guy into getting married, because if you do, he might just regret it, and you too. You're 25, there could a lot more stuffs going on for you aside from getting married. Think this through girl.
2006-08-16 23:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 yrs, what's he waiting for? Is he afraid of commitment? Are you at least living together? My last relationship ended partly because he doesn't ever want to be married again and I do. I sometimes feel as though I wasted almost 2 years.
2006-08-16 23:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by iamjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him wait forever. Marriage isn't a must these days you can be just as happy not being married. It's okay not to get married. maybe he doesn't want to at all. and if this is so and you love him then love him. it's okay. If you just have to get married and you are going to end up giving him an ultimatum just leave him now and don't waste the time.
2006-08-16 23:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wating is not a bad thing but wating six years is kinda extensiv and if he is still not shour then he probably wont ever be.
i think of it like this
if you know that you both would like to be together within the first six months thatn id say persew the relasionship. if not i would end it right there.
then after a year or more id ask the question (maridg)
relly you need to make the desision. this is just what i do
2006-08-16 23:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by jon i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are really serious about the feelings you have about marriage.. Andhe loves you like he says.. I really think it's time you tell him you understand he says he isnt ready to " talk" But, it is bothering you and you would like to discuss it.. Let him know you are not forcing it ( love and marriage cant be forced" But, you would like to share your thoughts with him... So, he knows how you feel... Dont make it an attack..
2006-08-16 23:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys need an ultimatum. Tell him either you'd like to get engaged or else you'll leave. Maybe he just needs the shock of possibly losing you.
2006-08-16 23:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if you haven't seriously discussed marriage within 18 months of going out, I don't think it's going to happen, and if it does it probably won't last. He's old enough to know his own mind by now.
Horrible as it sounds, I think you need to kiss him goodbye and move on.
2006-08-16 23:46:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After that long a time, it's time to force the issue with him to decide to either step up to your level of the relationship or decide to just be friends and let you move on with your life.
But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong...
2006-08-16 23:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by curiousandsmiley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fi you have been with him for 6 yrs now and he hasnt stepped up he probley wont step up and do right by you my advise kick the dude to the curb and find someone that wants the same thing as you do.
2006-08-16 23:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by richards_girl24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋